View Full Version : Guy, Way Too Close!
alanalov
Apr 4, 2007, 07:55 PM
I've known this guy for a couple of months now but I don't know him that much. We've only had a few conversations. The thing is that whenever he talks to me, he comes really close too me. Really close, you know when you feel someone's invading your personal space. That's it.
Why is he "acting" this way? Doesn't he know it might make me feel uncomfortable? What's with this proximity? Not only with me, but with other girls too. He's 23 by the way
finessed1
Apr 4, 2007, 08:04 PM
Is something wrong with him? Doesn't he know that invading someone's personal space can get you hurt these days? You should say something... something polite, though. Don't just let it slide because who knows where he will go. Good luck
HipHipHooray
Apr 5, 2007, 02:36 AM
Yeah, some people are just like that, they don't have an awareness of how they might be making people uncomfortable.
One of my lecturer's is like that. I prefer not to ask him questions as he'll answer then within inches of my face.
Maybe you could hint it to him humourously? Good luck pulling it off :P
alanalov
Apr 5, 2007, 04:21 PM
I did! I told him once... "distance! please :D :p" in a funny way
I think he's a player and my friend thinks he likes me, don't know what to believe
You can do what one of my instructors did to an employer of hers.
She outlined a box around herself in front of him and said that was her space. Could he please be mindful of her space as she did not feel comfortable with people getting so close to her.
kristynn
Apr 6, 2007, 02:25 PM
Maybe he likes you... he's maybe testing you.
But you say he does the same thing to other girls, so I can't really confirm this.
JoeCanada76
Apr 6, 2007, 02:52 PM
Personal space is a personal thing.
Everybody has a different level of tolerance.
Joe
alanalov
Apr 6, 2007, 03:29 PM
Thanks guys Actually, to be honest, I don't really mind his behaviour. The only thing I wanted to know is your opinions, jut to help me understand his behaviour. But him being this way actually hepled me feeling more comfortable w/ him. It seems that proximity helps when you get to know someone knew... but I've never someone like him before so this is why I was a bit puzzled a bit at first. Thanks
nicespringgirl
Jun 29, 2007, 12:34 PM
I hear you... I honestly don't understand it either. But I think culture makes a different too. Like in Japan and other asian countries, there is no such a obvious personal space, so is he not an american? Well, if he is american, then I can't answer this question, but if I were you, I'll tell him to "back off" as you did in a funny way... I won't mistake he likes me. I just think his action is not responsible and misleads people!