Recently my friends backstabbed me. My dad went to complain in school and a staff member was really rude to him.. he reciprocated her behaviour.

Now my dilemma is I need to go back to that school to complete my A 'levels!
And that "so-called" staff member is the Admin, hence, I'm bound to interact with her! I'm afraid she'll find every nook and corner to frame me!

WHAT DO I DO?

The first question is: why did you involve the school administration is personal matter?

The first question is: why did you involve the school administration is personal matter?

Yes, good question, but why your dad? Couldn't you have handled the matter personally?

Okay, go back and do you're a levels. Act as if nothing has happened; maybe apologize to her for your dad's behavior, in other words 'suck it up', and you will get through it !

If the title of your post is any indication of how you handle situations, i think you had better be more focused and calm.

The first question is: why did you involve the school administration is personal matter?


Because the matter was already out of hand! And aggravated to its limit! And even a teacher tried to frame me with false facts!
And hence my dad furiated and went with the complaint


Yes, good question, but why your dad? Couldn't you have handled the matter personally?

Okay, go back and do you're a levels. Act as if nothing has happened; maybe apologize to her for your dad's behavior, in other words 'suck it up', and you will get through it !

If the title of your post is any indication of how you handle situations, i think you had better be more focused and calm.


Well,I wanted to.. My dad got furious when he heard all of it after poking me a million times when he sensed something was going on! That's why he joined me :p

Well,I wanted to.. My dad got furious when he heard all of it after poking me a million times when he sensed something was going on! That's why he joined me :p
Okay but you still have to do you're a levels, so get it over and done with like I told you !

Okay but you still have to do you're a levels, so get it over and done with like I told you !


I can join in private but that's risky... and the main thing I'm scared is what if she forges my documents... she is the admin remember?

You're worried that the admin will forge documents and that the teacher will frame you? I think you thrive on drama. Until this changes it will follow you everywhere.

Face the music and have done with it !

I'm scared... ok lets see.. I'll have to go with whatever life throws at me thanks anyway everyone

Not making an accusations here... but thinking back the only time I've seen people freaking out and worried about someone "framing them" or "setting them up" are people that have been caught doing something serious and were grabbing at straws trying to find an excuse or a way out.

Teachers and administrators have far too many things to worryabout just doing their jobs to need to or have time to "set someone up" or "frame them". Students really aren't there all that long, they come, they grow up, and they graduate... most of them not making any huge waves or causing enough trouble to be memorable.

So when I hear stories like this... I tend to begin to wonder about what really happened and why aren't we being told what it was... like someone's rehearsing before the show.

So when I hear stories like this... I tend to begin to wonder about what really happened and why aren't we being told what it was... like someone's rehearsing before the show.

Mmmm. Yes, possibility. Never thought of that angle, but now that you mention it, it has possibilities. So, what has been going on behind the scenes with our OP student ?

I sat for 4 exams normally... between the 4th and 5th I had a gap of about 12 days... and since my 4th exam I don't know why I'm unable to study properly! I'm always on Facebook or on my phone texting someone or talking... Or even not doing anything.. I'm either eating like a monster... NO MATTER WHAT I'M JUST UNABLE TO STUDY AND MAINTAIN DIETING... After a lot of hardwork I've lost the small amount of weight I did.. and now I'm eating so much I'm going to regain it in no time!

I want to keep losing weight until I'm in my ideal weight that is 50kilos...

And I also want to become studious like I used to...

And this exam is the most important exam of my life! I need to get all A's or else I'd never be able to get or become what I want in life! And besides,my dad is having to work super hard to meet the expenses of my studies.. It is not cheap where I study..! Yet still he's not compromising with giving me the best possible education..! I want to pay him back by passing with flying colours in my exams and also by losing weight and becoming pretty which always wanted! He always buys me the best possible cosmetic product I ask/need... so that I can be pretty..! Please give me a solution so that I can meet up to my parents expectations... i.e. by being studious and skinny..!

PLEASE HELP!

I was a girl who was very serious about studies and was superbly ambitious... but lately I've become careless towards studies... but I want to be studious like before.. please help!!

I'm not being able to stop mindless eating lately! I've been munching away beef chops... Puffed rice.. Chocbars... Toasted biscuits all day...

After a year's hardwork I lost 12 kilos and according to the doctor I need to lose another 9 kilos to be of my proper weight according to my BMI..!

But the way I'm munching away all the junk.. it's impossible I'll ever lose that 9kilos.. Infact,I recently noticed that I gained 2 inches!!


PLEASE HELP ME!

You don't need help you just need to relax and focus on one thing at a time and get it done properly. You are trying to be so perfect at too many things all at once ad have put unnecessary pressure on yourself. By chance do you take any kinds of meds or diet pills? Be honest.

I mean boyfriends, diet, school, backstabbing friends, trying to please parents, lousy teacher, and administrators, what's up ALL that girl?

Get off the computer (if you have to, ask your parents to put a block on it so you can only use it for an hour a day), leave your phone at home, and go to the library to do your studying... (you can't eat in the library).

Only YOU can take control of the situation and make the changes necessary. If it helps, set aside a certain time frame each day that is just for study time.

Start getting some exercise each day... put on music and dance, take walks, go for a bike ride, anything... just get moving. Maybe get a friend to go with you. The exercise can help clear your mind and help you to refocus on what you need to do. It can also help with your weight... but that needs to be for you, not for anyone else.

Get off the computer (if you have to, ask your parents to put a block on it so you can only use it for an hour a day), leave your phone at home, and go to the library to do your studying... (you can't eat in the library).

Only YOU can take control of the situation and make the changes necessary. If it helps, set aside a certain time frame each day that is just for study time.

Start getting some exercise each day... put on music and dance, take walks, go for a bike ride, anything... just get moving. Maybe get a friend to go with you. The exercise can help clear your mind and help you to refocus on what you need to do. It can also help with your weight... but that needs to be for you, not for anyone else.


Well,as u see my exams are going on.. I need my internet connection and my computer for the markschemes.. the notes I saved on it and when having problems regaring the subject,to seek the teachers help on the subject's Facebook group.

But yeah,thanks about the tip with exercise :) It's just as my exams are going on and as I'm too stressed out I can't find time for a workout but yeah! Truly appreciate your advice and will try to do that.. Thank you so much!

You don't need help you just need to relax and focus on one thing at a time and get it done properly. You are trying to be so perfect at too many things all at once ad have put unnecessary pressure on yourself. By chance do you take any kinds of meds or diet pills? Be honest.

I mean boyfriends, diet, school, backstabbing friends, trying to please parents, lousy teacher, and administrators, what's up ALL that girl?


Lol. I don't take diet pills my dear. :) I lost weight in a complete natural way! :) But I need to lose weight! And I love my parents plus the way my dad's working so hard to pay for my education.. it really hurts when I sometimes think I may not be able to meet up to his expectations.. which hurts me more. I'm not trying to be perfect.. I'm just trying to be the girl who makes herself and her family happy :)

Maybe you try too hard and are scattered in too many different directions at once. Put everything aside and focus on your exams for now. The rest will come and easier to build to success one step at a time.

Its hard if you take it by the yard, but a cinch if you take it by the inch. Get it?

Well,as u see my exams are going on.. I need my internet connection and my computer for the markschemes.. the notes I saved on it and when having problems regaring the subject,to seek the teachers help on the subject's Facebook group.

But yeah,thanks about the tip with exercise :) It's just as my exams are going on and as I'm too stressed out I can't find time for a workout but yeah! Truly appreciate your advice and will try to do that.. Thank you so much!

Well then, you will have to discipline yourself to stay focused just on schoolwork while on the computer until after your exams are done. Again, only you can change how you spend your time. Anyone can find some time to exercise. Do something for 15 minutes before you start your studying and then 15 minutes when you are done. Get up a half an hour earlier to get some exercise. Walk places that you normally would go to in a car whenever possible. When you are feeling stressed, take a break, put on some music, and dance through 5 songs. Sometimes you just have to be creative in making time for it.

As talaniman said, focus just on exams for now. Don't worry about weight, but you can get some healthier options to munch on while you study. You are almost done with all of the exams... you can do this!

Not making an accusations here... but thinking back the only time I've seen people freaking out and worried about someone "framing them" or "setting them up" are people that have been caught doing something serious and were grabbing at straws trying to find an excuse or a way out.

Teachers and administrators have far too many things to worryabout just doing their jobs to need to or have time to "set someone up" or "frame them". Students really aren't there all that long, they come, they grow up, and they graduate... most of them not making any huge waves or causing enough trouble to be memorable.

So when I hear stories like this... I tend to begin to wonder about what really happened and why aren't we being told what it was... like someone's rehearsing before the show.

Well,Miss Deepita has been known and reported to be very "unprofessional" by many students and a few teachers too..! The only reason she's not being sacked is her back-up.. she somehow is a close acquaintant of the principal... And the chairman does not stay in Bangladesh for long enough you see...

And the main incident what happened was,Nauman and Junaid commented on 1 of my collages that I lost weight using masturbation and sex!! They did it before as well... I tried to make them stop by talking to them personally... instead of trying to realise the gravity of their mistake they
Started posting up screen shots of our conversation and making fun of it... and they put up several statusses as well..!

I hope now you've got your answer...

P.S : I'm the kind of a girl who doesn't like messing around with people much,okay? And I have always tried and been nice with people...