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kelly 20
May 13, 2014, 06:01 PM
The thing is couple years ago my classmates asked me if I ever dated before, in fact I've never had a boyfriend, yet, when they asked me I said " yes, I had a boyfriend " so that I don't seem as a LOSER, and now I feel so stupid for what I did, and I'm afraid, if I meet a guy in the future and if it happens he asks me about if I had someone before him, well I'll say "no " but what if one of my classmates tells him " she once said that she had a boy friend "WHAT WILL I DO AT THIS KIND OF SITUATION?! Well it may seem something silly but I do really really reaaaaaaaaaaaalllllllll lyyyyyyyyyy need advice.

poseidon
May 14, 2014, 06:41 AM
Hi Kelly,

The fib you told was a very minor one and I am positive you are not the first person to say that you have had a boyfriend even though you have not.

I would not let it upset you too much.

As you told this fib a couple of years ago I doubt anyone will recall what you said and even if they did I would not let it worry you.

When you get a boyfriend it is your decision whether to tell him if you have had a boyfriend in the past.

I do feel though that honesty is the best policy and tell him that he is your first because you were waiting for the right one to come along.

That should make him feel happy and wanted and should convince him to take really good care of you.

Poseidon

Fr_Chuck
May 14, 2014, 06:51 AM
Depending on where you are. If this is United States or Canada, and you are in high school or college or out of school.
Boyfriends will not ask, or should not ask, who you dated before.

talaniman
May 14, 2014, 07:49 AM
Why not simply tell the new guy, when there is one, the truth, you lied before because you didn't want people to think you were a loser back then. Just because you lied once years ago you, don't have to keep lying. I fail to see why he would question your classmate about this though unless HE is a loser now.

Are you still in high school? A good lesson in being who you are, and not having shame, or guilt, about your actions or words just to impress others.