View Full Version : What are my rights if any
fran0415
May 13, 2014, 03:45 PM
So I moved back into my grandmothers house when I was 21 because of unfortunate circumstances. Now I am 23 and am pregnant however I work and go to school and only needed to live here until I give birth which is this June 2014. She found out I was pregnant and she wants me out. I did not tell her before because as crazy as it sound my grandmother is a very evil bitter person. She told me mother that I ed of my life and that she wanted know part in this and that I probably don't even know who the father is. FYI I've been with the father for 3 years and my pregnancy was planned, we are engaged and purchasing a house in July. There are many other things she has said and is doing but cowardly only says these things to my mother and not me. She told my mother to promise her I would Be out by the end of this month and she only said that because that's what my mom told her.
So my question is does she still have to give me a 30 days notice because really she did not and my mom did not directly say this either. Like I said I had planned to leave June 1rst on my own will without all this drama but because of other people not minding their own business this is what has transpired.
dontknownuthin
May 13, 2014, 03:56 PM
You could legally refuse to move and make your grandmother formally evict you, but you are morally in the wrong if you do.
So you are a grown woman relying on the kindness of a relative to get by, but as your grandmother, she has certain expectations, including not getting pregnant while you are unmarried and living in her house.
Surely you knew this planned pregnancy would upset her and your housing arrangement, and you could have simply shown some common sense and respect and waited to do as you please in your own house, after you move out of hers.
Why dont you you stop being so selfish and find some gratitude for her putting a roof over your head when you had no better options? Courteously advise her of a date certain (and soon) when you are moving out, apologize for disappointing and upsetting her, and thank her for helping you as long as she has. Move out as soon as possible - with a pregnant fiancé I am sure mr. wonderful can provide you housing until you close on the house.
You may not be sorry for being in this situation , but surely you can apologize for the upset caused by your actions to she and your mother.
you sound very immature.
smoothy
May 13, 2014, 03:59 PM
Well, when it happens under someone else's roof... its THEIR business too.
None of the rest really matter. Its Her house... you follow her rules not matter what your age. You accept them or find someplace else. Be happy she gave you a place to live... she had no legal requirement to do it. You were an adult.
You've been there long enough to be considered a month to month tenant. If you live in Florida she can have to evicted with 2 weeks notice. Its not 30 days everywhere.
And news flash... I don't think your Grandmother is the very evil bitter person... I think its you. All you did in this post is rant and rave about someone nice enough to take you in and give you a place to live when she wasn't required to. Where was your mother and father in all of this? Didn't they want you in their house either?
Time for a reality check... and spend some time dealing with your issues. THey aren't going away when you move out. WHo are you going to blame everything on after you leave? Give it some serious thought. If you were my granddaughter I'd have tossed you both out of my house a long time ago. AND I'd make sure you were not im my Will.
Alty
May 13, 2014, 04:07 PM
Why not move in with your fiancé? You two are planning this great life together, planned a pregnancy before getting married, before having a roof over your head. You seem to be doing everything backwards.
The fact is, you're an adult. You're pregnant, and it was planned. Your grandmother should never have supported you to begin with, she was doing something nice, and now you want to make things difficult for her.
If you're mature enough to bring a child into this world, you should be mature enough to find a roof over your head that you pay for, not someone else. Move in with the fiancé. That should have happened before the pregnancy.
ScottGem
May 13, 2014, 04:11 PM
You are due in one month and she didn't know you were pregnant? She gave you shelter and you repay her by trying to hide things from her?
I have to agree with the other responses here that you sound like a thankless child.
But the bottom line is that you are a resident and entitled to the protections of a periodic tenant. I think you apologize for deceiving her and explain that you already planned on moving out on June 1 and hope she won't require that you vacate sooner.
fran0415
May 13, 2014, 04:35 PM
Wow you guys are insane I'm not mad at her because she is kicking me out I'm not mad at all me calling her bitter has nothing to do with what's happening that's just how she has been my entire life and if I could have went to my finances place then trust me I would have already went. I'm not apologizing to y mother she's known I've been pregnant the whole time . I shared a little piece of information that just happened 2 days ago and yes it's her business I never said that it wasn't I'm talking about the random neighbor that went up to her . I am not even offended by what she said.. She told my mother the same thing when she was pregnant with me that she was no longer her daughter. So again I'm not going to sue her or anything I just wanted to know If I had until the end of this month or not AND my Mother lives here too and I've never met my father thank god and she told me I could come live her becuSe I was paying 2300 a month for an apartment .. I moved out of her house wen I was 16years old so again u guys r just beyond insane .. I appreciate what she's done I just want to kno if I hVe my right to leave at the end of te month.. And she does not pay for me while I am living here I just sleep here I pay for everything on my own. And to the person who said she has morals why do morals have to do wih this my grandma was never married and she has two kids
smoothy
May 13, 2014, 04:37 PM
A little bit of humilty goes a long way.
If she was as evena tiny bit as bad as you claim... why did you move in with her, and why did she even offer you the chance to move in? You know very few people would have. Evil Bitter people would have told you to get stuffed rather than let you move in....related or not.
You planned on moving anyway on June 1st. So just do it. Or do you plan on building even more ill will within your family than already exists? You don't appear to be very gratefull at all for everythig she did for you, and it wasn't insignificant. You really weren't entitled to any of it. She was being gracious. At 18 you are an adult and your parents could toss you out of their house.
I don't think you are getting the point we were making. Thank your Grandmother for everything she's done, appologize for what you have done and for offending her.
You might find yourself in real need in the future, and if this is her last memory....she won't open her door again for you. Nor will any of your other relatives because they WILL hear about what happened. Trust me there...I've seen it happen before to someone I knew and was related to.
ScottGem
May 13, 2014, 06:25 PM
This site is different from other Q&A sites. We don't just answer questions here. We deal with the entire situation as best we can. No we are not insane and your reaction to try and insult us seems typical of your lack of maturity.
You were the one who bad mouthed your grandmother after telling us she took you in. We had to deal with what you had said. So we expressed our opinion on your comments about your grandmother based on what you told us.
But we did answer your question at the same time.
dontknownuthin
May 13, 2014, 08:00 PM
It seems whomever doesn't support your poor decisions is in line for your name calling. You are about to be a parent. It is no longer about you. This site is meant to help and many people get some unexpected insight. We all had the same take on your comments and actions and we don't even know one another. We are not insane. We are responding to your comments. Maybe the comments from you are "insane".