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asrain
May 12, 2014, 12:39 AM
Hello. Just today I thought to write down my problem that makes me confused and don't know what to do!

I'm in relationship with my boyfriend for 2 years. He is hot temper he get angry easily and when he gets angry he will do anything and say anything. He doesn't feel what he is doing is wrong. He is so open with girls, he is sensitive when he talks with them. He doesn't have limits when he deals with them, he will chat with them or call them. The problem the girls mostly are my friends because we are in same school. The first girl I know he used to chat with her and call her. I was angry and told him you must block her and all the girls. He did but after few days he added them again.

Then the second girl was my friend. He used to chat with her. I was OK, because I trusted them but one day my friend asked my boyfriend to do favor for her. Then he did and he told her to hide it from me. After few days he told me and he said I told her to never tell you about it. It pissed me off and I asked to break up. Then he went to my friend to tell her that I'm jealous of her and bla bla.

After that, another girl again. When I told him to make limits between him and the girl but he doesn't listen. I was so jealous we fight a lot. Then he went and told the girl which is my friend too, that I'm jealous and cause problems because of her, so he said that she should stop talking with me about him. I'm confused. He never seen himself wrong. He thinks he is right, and he never solve the problem or learn from this mistake.

How to deal with this kind of person??

joypulv
May 12, 2014, 01:07 AM
This is hard to read because your sentences just go on and on.
But I saw this " I was angry and told him you must block her and all the girlz."
Eventually you will learn that we don't get to tell people what to do. When you are going to get married, you can discuss relationships with others, but you sound very young. Trying to stop a boyfriend from having other female friends is death to your relationship. You might as well break up with him now, and get this over with. No one is forcing you to stay with him. Learn now, before you get married and have children and it's much harder to leave. AGAIN - the hardest thing many of us have to learn about relationships is that we DON'T GET TO TELL ANYONE WHAT TO DO. You discuss it, you negotiate, and you compromise, and if none of that works, you leave.

smoothy
May 12, 2014, 04:15 AM
I agree with joypulv. Learn to get this cotroling tendency out of your system now because nobody is beholden to you, and you have zero right to be telling anyone else who they can and can't communicate with. That's a sure fire way to destroy any relationship you are ever going to have.

I'm guessing you are about 14 right now... because you would have or at least should have learned before now why everything you are doing is wrong on so many levels.

And of course he won't see himself as being wrong because he isn't. Its you that is. You need to see this and learn from your mistake.

Homegirl 50
May 12, 2014, 06:47 AM
While you should not be telling him what to do, does he cross the line in his communication with these girls, and why are your friends allowing him to do so?
My biggest concern is the anger issue you said he has, He will do anything, what does that mean? Maybe you should consider leaving. He's is not going to change and your views don't seem to be going to change either.

talaniman
May 12, 2014, 07:35 AM
How old are you both? Very immature to be jealous of your own friends.