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aliceinchains88
Apr 4, 2007, 11:48 AM
(I thought I posted this last night, but it must not have worked right so I'm posting is again, sorry if there's two of these, but I can't find the one I posted earlier!) I have a very tight group of friends... well, there's not much to it anymore because of college, and other changes. But me, my boyfriend, and his best friend... well ill make up some names so it doesn't get too confusing. My boyfriend "todd" his best friend "james" anyway, me, todd and james have remained really close friends. Of course, me and todd being boyfriend and girlfriend for almost 2 years now are very close and I love him very very much. We have been having sex for over a year, and I don't think that our relationship could get much better. Of course we have our problems... but that's not the point. James and I are very close too. But in a different manner. Were just friends, almost like brother-sister. But there has always been some sort of weird attractions between us. Todd actually thought I was cheating on him with james at one point in time. Of course that was not true, because he was dating my ex-best friend at the time. I was hurt so terribly my the fact that todd thought I was cheating on him, I have been cheated on so I know what it feels like. But then the other night I had this dream about james... I dreamed that we were having sex, I could feel it and everything, it was soooo real that it woke me up. Is there something going on here that I don't see? I'm scared to tell todd because of what he might think, but it is really bothering me... does it even mean anything? Or am I just being over sensitive. Even if you guys don't have a comment, answer thing for me, I feel better just getting it off my chest, so thanks for any comments, and thanks for listening

Lowtax4eva
Apr 4, 2007, 12:18 PM
I've always heard that dreams don't necessarily mean anything, like deep down you may not really like him in that way. But only you would know for sure.

If you don't have those kinds of feelings for your bf's friend then don't look too far into it...

Emland
Apr 4, 2007, 01:29 PM
Perhaps your boyfriend's belief that you were cheating on him imbedded itself into your subconscious and your dreamstate just brought it out for examination.

If you want to keep your boyfriend, keep it to yourself.

lfsxthnudie
Apr 23, 2007, 06:51 PM
If you love your boyfriend take this secret to your grave. You did nothing wrong. Your dreams can play tricks on you, or maybe you're slightly attracted to your friend. Either way, you're not hurting your man at all by dreaming. I'm sure he's had one or two fantasies about other women too. Don't worry about it.