View Full Version : How do I approach?
97sd
May 5, 2014, 12:30 PM
So there's this girl.. I work with every Saturday I'm 16 she's 17. I have known her for 6 months but about a 5 weeks ago I moved from working Sunday to Saturday and got to know her a lot better. She has a the kind of personality which make you never see any of her imperfections and I can never stop thinking about her. The great thing is I don't feel that awkward talking to her. I don't know how she feel about me sometime I think maybe she likes me because the way she smiles at me when I talk to her and I've seen her stare at me a few times but I could just be me being hopeful . One thing that worry me is probably for at least another year will be working together on a Saturday and if nothing happens before then then there a chance that I won't really see her much. She hasn't got a boyfriend but she does talk about boy with the other girl that we both work with saying how good looking they are but they are horrible people. We share hobbies (horse riding) and the only time we spend with each over is all day saturdays as well as sometime chatting on Facebook. So how should I approach?
RDFG
May 5, 2014, 04:39 PM
Just do it. Sounds like she is throwing hints that she is single. Ask her if she wants to go horse back riding or something with you.
Alty
May 5, 2014, 05:05 PM
Tell her you like her. Ask her to hang out outside of work, and see if she accepts, and if so, how it goes. Start by just hanging out, getting to know each other better. If a romance develops, great. If not, you have a new friend to hang out with.
It's not easy dating someone, at your age, when you have to work with them. But being friends is always a bonus, and most great relationships, those that last, start as a friendship.
joypulv
May 6, 2014, 03:48 AM
One common mistake teens make when first wanting to date is to ask 'Will you go out with me?' without having a place, day, and time in mind. It leaves the girl in the awkward position of wondering what you mean by going out. So as suggested, ask her to go riding with you, the next day! If there's some reason she can't, she will leave the door open for another day or another activity, so don't go to pieces. If it turns out that she doesn't want to be with you in a 'date' capacity, she will most likely be just vague about why she can't go. It isn't too hard to read between the lines. If it is truly confusing, make one more attempt at going somewhere, even if just for a walk. Then give up. But I have a feeling she likes you just fine.
talaniman
May 6, 2014, 07:06 AM
Extend an invitation and go from there. Sometime you just have to try it and see what happen. Even if she shows no romantic interest, you still have to be co workers, and that's not too bad either, if you can adjust yourself. Horseback riding is a great idea as friends.
Talaniman Rule - Make a connection. Even if romance doesn't follow, you can still enjoy the connection.