Parajewels
Apr 26, 2014, 08:33 AM
Hello everyone:) I'm trying to get some good advise on what to do in my custody situation. My ultimate goal is to have the parental rights of the father of my 3 kids terminated.
So, we were together for 12 years, never married, with 3 children, ages 11, 9, and 5. It was an abusive, (in all ways) on/off relationship. I stayed so long because I felt stuck, and thought he would change.
In 2011, I moved back to Idaho, from Washington, to get away from him for the last time. He followed me. I gave it one more try for the sake of our kids, he agreed to go to counseling, stop using alcohol and drugs. We went to 4-5 counseling sessions, then he refused to go any more. He started using meth. I kicked him out and got a restraining order because he repeatedly threatened to kill me in front of our kids if I left.
Over the first year, he continuously stalked, harassed, and threatened me. One time even telling his family that he had been sitting on a hill above my house, looking at me through my bedroom window, through the scope of his rifle.
At first, he claimed he wanted visitation with the kids. I refused to let it happen without him passing a drug test. He would not take one.
So, here we are, almost 3 years later. He has not seen our kids in over 2 1/2 years, has not paid one dime of child support, and has completely ignored our eldest daughters attempts at reaching out to him.
He has moved back to Washington and is working under the table to avoid paying child support. He is over $28,000 behind.
I need to know the best course of action in getting full custody of my kids, and if possible, assuring he has no rights. He has completely abandoned them in every way.
Here are the problems... I can not, at this time, afford an attorney, not even a cheap one.
He is hiding completely under the radar, I don't even have an address for him, so how will I have him served?
All I know is that he is back in Washington, working for his cousin under the table, he is still on meth, and is also growing pot.
Please help! Any good advice will be so appreciated!
So, we were together for 12 years, never married, with 3 children, ages 11, 9, and 5. It was an abusive, (in all ways) on/off relationship. I stayed so long because I felt stuck, and thought he would change.
In 2011, I moved back to Idaho, from Washington, to get away from him for the last time. He followed me. I gave it one more try for the sake of our kids, he agreed to go to counseling, stop using alcohol and drugs. We went to 4-5 counseling sessions, then he refused to go any more. He started using meth. I kicked him out and got a restraining order because he repeatedly threatened to kill me in front of our kids if I left.
Over the first year, he continuously stalked, harassed, and threatened me. One time even telling his family that he had been sitting on a hill above my house, looking at me through my bedroom window, through the scope of his rifle.
At first, he claimed he wanted visitation with the kids. I refused to let it happen without him passing a drug test. He would not take one.
So, here we are, almost 3 years later. He has not seen our kids in over 2 1/2 years, has not paid one dime of child support, and has completely ignored our eldest daughters attempts at reaching out to him.
He has moved back to Washington and is working under the table to avoid paying child support. He is over $28,000 behind.
I need to know the best course of action in getting full custody of my kids, and if possible, assuring he has no rights. He has completely abandoned them in every way.
Here are the problems... I can not, at this time, afford an attorney, not even a cheap one.
He is hiding completely under the radar, I don't even have an address for him, so how will I have him served?
All I know is that he is back in Washington, working for his cousin under the table, he is still on meth, and is also growing pot.
Please help! Any good advice will be so appreciated!