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Ishaan45
Apr 8, 2014, 02:36 AM
Ok so here I go... My girlfriend and I are together for 5 months. Actually my gf's mom caught the we are in relation 4 times. She used to scold for every time and said that she would be sent Malaysia to her father. (We are in India). So the fourth time she caught us being in relation... she was very angry and moreover her father came to take her to Malaysia. She(gf's mother) saw our messages about kissing and smooching and all and was disappointed. But her (gf's) friends came to her house and convinced her parents. My girlfriend promised not to do this sort of things again. But we were still in relation. Now she(gf's mom) caught us again. I think she saw the our messages but that were not dirty kind of. And she is very angry. She complained about us in the school. The positive point is that my mom knows about us... but not that smooch and all. Now I'm very scared and confused. I think my gf's mom will end her education and send her Malaysia. I'm very scared. I can not live without her. Please help me... and no harsh or funny answers OK?
Thank you.

joypulv
Apr 8, 2014, 03:43 AM
You don't even say how old each of you is!
We can't stop a parent from taking a child out of school, or from keeping her away from you, or from taking her to another country. Sorry. You live with the pain just like millions of other young lovers. You act like a responsible teen, do well in school, help your parents, and wait. The more you act like an adult the more all the parents will consider letting you see each other again. You knew what you were facing when you continued to touch each other (you aren't clear exactly what you did) many times after being caught. You should have promised each other to not touch just so that this wouldn't happen. Too late now, and you wait until you are old enough to do what you want.

Of course our answers are going to be somewhat harsh. What else can we say? Your gf promised not to do anything again, and yet you both continued. Do you understand 'consequences of your actions?'
As for not being able to live without her.... of course it feels that way. We ALL suffer loss of love at some time in our lives. It's painful beyond belief, yet we somehow crawl our way out of it.

Fr_Chuck
Apr 8, 2014, 05:14 AM
You stop the kissing and stop doing anything but being friends. Wait till you are old enough to decide for self on relationship.

talaniman
Apr 8, 2014, 10:11 AM
What do you expect but big trouble if you cannot respect and follow her parents rules? You DID get caught 4 times breaking the rules so expect punishment. Love is one thing my young friend, common sense is entirely another, and you and your girl seem to have NONE!

I cannot believe you would continue to disobey the obvious rules of good behavior set for you both and ignore you both are obviously being watched CLOSELY!! If this is the best you can do, then its NOT good enough for her parents. Do much better or suffer the consequences!

Homegirl 50
Apr 8, 2014, 05:52 PM
How old are the two of you? You cannot be trusted, this is why her parents are doing this.

smoothy
Apr 8, 2014, 06:07 PM
A boy and girl that act like this most times ends up with a pregnant girl and the responsible boy nowhere to be found.

Her parents know this all too well.

Alty
Apr 8, 2014, 07:16 PM
You're both in India. Girls in India are usually in arranged marriages. Smooching, and kissing, and being in "relations" with boys, is not allowed. A girl with a reputation such as this, will likely never find a husband. If she lies about past relations, the husband usually finds out. We have too many posts like these on this site.

You're horny, and want to kiss and have "relations" with girls. That's normal in most parts of the world, but in India, doing what you want can ruin a girls life.

As a male in India you likely will have no consequences for your actions. But your girlfriend, she will face many consequences because of the kissing, smooching, and "relations".

Sadly, that's the way it is where you live. I find it foolish, silly, and archaic, but that's the way it is in India. A girl that isn't chaste, will not have any success with a husband, even an arranged one. Even kissing and smooching is taboo. Having "relations" which means sex, is absouletly forbidden for women. Even kissing a former boyfriend is often reason enough for divorce for the arranged husband.

Her parents are trying to protect her reputation, so she can marry in the future. Leave her alone. You're ruining her life.

This advice I'm giving is not something I'd say to anyone in the free world. It's related only to where you live, and the rules you have to abide by. Like I said before, I find those rules stupid, archaic, silly. But that's what you, and the girl, have to follow, because of where you live.

Don't put her life at risk because you're horny.