My boyfriend told me that I am very manipulative. I didn't think so until his mom told me I was too. I don't want to be a bad girlfriend and I don't want his mom thinking bad of me. How do I stop being manipulative? I don't even know I'm doing it when I do it. I play the pity game, I like being in control of everything, and I play mind games to make him act how I want to, to get what I want, and for him to feel bad and give into me. I feel so crazy inside! I want to be a better person by changing not just for my boyfriend but for me. Please help.

How do you stop? Simple... put yourself in someone else's shoes... imagine THEM trying to manipulate you into doing things you don't want. Also remember the world doesn't revolve around you... maybe yours does... but not even your parents do.. and certainly nobody else.

And consider this... if you don't... you are going to find many guys leaving you when they get tired of the head games. And they will... any worth having will.

Agree to a signal word ("walruses" or "abracadabra" or some such) with your boyfriend and his mom (and friends?) whenever you start doing your manipulative thing and playing mind games.

Agree to a signal word ("walruses" or "abracadabra" or some such) with your boyfriend and his mom (and friends?) whenever you start doing your manipulative thing and playing mind games.

That's a great idea :)