PDA

View Full Version : Still single at 30.


lonely2010
Mar 15, 2014, 08:52 AM
Well I am 30 years old woman, still single, and I want to be married, but I don't know where can I find someone who I can trust and live with. I don't like some ones around me, just want to find a guy who is far from me, maybe from another country?

Oliver2011
Mar 15, 2014, 09:15 AM
Be thankful you are single at 30 and not stuck in a loveless marriage. By all means don't settle for some guy just for the sake of being married. Suggestions:

Church
Tennis or sport of your choice Lessons
Cooking Class
Meet Up - that's a social thing we have in this area for all different interests. There's a Meet Up for screenplay writers, Paleo diet people, politics, sports, etc.

talaniman
Mar 15, 2014, 09:56 AM
From reading past threads you have posted, I think you are so obsessed with having a relationship that leads to marriage, you are not having any dun being single.

The big secret is after taking a risk with relationships is learning how and when to let go after you know they will go nowhere or are just bad, and getting over all the bad feelings that come with the failure and disappointment. Its called the healing process and a proper healing makes you ready for the next adventure/experiment.

I suspect you are between options and opportunities for fun, and of course your mind dwells back to the marriage thing because that's what you want. Forget marriage, go out and enjoy being single until someone changes your mind. Now, how come you don't have friends, and activities that you enjoy, to keep you from feeling sorry you haven't found the right guy to marry?

I call it tripping on what you want, but haven't found... YET! Often this is because either you look too hard, expect too much, or ignore the obvious under your nose.

lonely2010
Mar 15, 2014, 08:53 PM
I call it tripping on what you want, but haven't found... YET! Often this is because either you look too hard, expect too much, or ignore the obvious under your nose.
just recovered from a mental disease.

smoothy
Mar 15, 2014, 09:46 PM
Any guy you meet is going to run for the hills if you start talking marriage shortly after you start dating. Nobody that has any common sense jumps into a marriage. And it can be presented through behaviour without actually saying those words specifically.

Marriage should be the destination after you meet the right person and get to know each other well enough to spend a lifetime together. One does not even start hinting days, weeks or even months they want that... those that do.. usually find themselves getting divorced because they find out things AFTER the marriage they would have known BEFORE if they had taken the time to get to know the person well enough before jumping the gun.