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silentshout
Mar 13, 2014, 09:46 PM
Hi everyone.. this is my first post and I'm currently going through a lot of stress and sadness. I'm 23 years old and my girlfriend is 22. I'm unsure of what to do now. My girlfriend and I and my mom.. have been living together for almost 2 years and a half. Yes I know my mom is in there.. it was her idea to ask her to live with us. After 2 years we have had our little fights and what not.. but now its at a point where my girlfriend just wants to go live with her parents again. (all of this is in the same state, and we literally live a couple minutes walking from each other). Today she finally made up her mind because I did not agree to give her a ride to work so she had to take the bus. The reason why I decided to not give her a ride was because I was feeling unappreciated, she never really wanted to do anything for me like cook, but she did sometimes.

So today she made her mind up, I woke up at 6pm wondering where my girlfriend was.. she gets out of work at 5.. And is normally home at 5 20.. so I texted her.. she did not reply.. until a couple hours later and she told me she was at her parents house. I said okay, when are you coming back? She said I'm, staying. I tried to call to talk but she said there's nothing to talk about. So I calmed down a little and kept texting her. After a couple hours her mother drover her to our house so that she could get a pair of clothe for tomorrow to go to work, when she got here.. I did not look at her or say anything but I instead started to look at her pictures on my computer and begun to cry, she did not do anything because of this she kept picking her clothes. Of course I was crying because I've been with this girl for almost 3 years now.. and she has been living with me.. 2+ years out of those 3.. She moved in with me fairly quickly because she would literally spend weeks sleeping over at my house.. so yeah.

After she left I asked for a hug in a text. I was to late she had already left. So we kept texting, then we got on steam(steampowered.com) and begun chatting there. After enough talking we both said we don't want to end our relationship because its been going on for so long and we don't want to lose all this time we spent knowing each other and that we should learn to understand each other more. So we both agreed to stay in a relationship, but not live together.. I'm still sad.. because she won't be here next to me every day anymore.

I want to know if I should try this.. I really want too but I want to hear others opinions too.. maybe people who tried this and have a story about it.

Oliver2011
Mar 14, 2014, 05:24 AM
"The reason why I decided to not give her a ride was because I was feeling unappreciated, she never really wanted to do anything for me like cook"

Are you kidding me? You two have a very immature relationship, and I struggle using the word "relationship". Actually I do have a problem using that word. You have more of an association or affiliation.

What you have isn't love. Love means the little things don't matter. If she doesn't cook for you well then you cook for her. Love means putting her first, not yourself. Until you realize this and grow up, expect to be breaking up with a lot of girls.

talaniman
Mar 14, 2014, 05:27 AM
You have no choice but to try this new arrangement, and it telling that you both feel under appreciated and acted so immaturely, especially YOU. Do you work? I hope you do but don't seem to appreciate she does. There is probably more to this but basically living with your mom at your age and expecting her to be like your mom and cater to you is a it unrealistic, and simply not meeting her.

As you both evaluate and try to resole your issues consider listening better, and growing up a lot, and dealing with your own impulses that started this conflict that was making her get away from you in the first place. Couples grow together, or apart, and she probably was getting fed up working and putting up with your BS.

She probably has enough of her own to deal with. Do you work? Sometimes time away is needed to let the emotional dust settle, and put things in perspective. Look at YOURSELF, and makes sure it's an HONEST look.