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anon97
Feb 24, 2014, 04:24 PM
My Ex Boyfriend only just told me today about his Suicidal Attempt along with that he sent me the pictures of his cuts and doctors treating him. He tried over dosing and cutting his veins. Idk how to handle it he's my ex it shouldn't hurt as much as it did... I cried all day and I ended up cutting myself again. Now I'm scared for his life as he's totally given up with life and doesn't believe there's a point behind it. What do I do? Im scared

Cat1864
Feb 24, 2014, 04:36 PM
He needs professional help. You cannot provide what he needs. He wants to hurt you because he is hurting and that is not acceptable. If you are concerned about him, contact his family and/or the authorities and give them the messages, etc. that he sent you. Then let them handle it.

While you are doing that, contact someone who can give you the help and support you need to accept his actions are not your responsibility. Someone you can talk to and air your feelings and concerns so that you do not bottle them up and continue to hurt yourself.

Take care of yourself. It isn't selfish, mean or cruel to stand back and let others do their job.

anon97
Feb 24, 2014, 04:42 PM
But I think I still have feelings for him and it has to be my fault if I didn't end it, he
Wouldn't have dome what he did because he felt isolated and alone. He would have been able to talk to me, its not fair all I've ever wanted was for me to die but instead its him, that all this bull happened to.I can't risk hurting him more.

Cat1864
Feb 24, 2014, 04:54 PM
But I think I still have feelings for him and it has to be my fault if I didn't end it, he
Wouldn't have dome what he did because he felt isolated and alone. He would have been able to talk to me, its not fair all I've ever wanted was for me to die but instead its him, that all this bull happened to.I can't risk hurting him more.

It is not your fault. He made choices. This didn't 'happen' to him. He did it to himself for his own reasons. There is a very big difference.

It may seem like I am being insensitive but I do understand how you feel. As neutral party, I also see his manipulations. That isn't love or caring. That is almost the opposite.

I know you care about him. But you need to care more about yourself. Do you have someone you can talk to? Do you have a support system for yourself?

anon97
Feb 24, 2014, 05:07 PM
If I had a support system or someone I could talk to then I wouldn't be using this site and he's literally the only one who understood me, he understood how my family life was what things stressed me out he knew the basics even family or friends didn't know. It hurts seeing him this way. I don't care about what happens to me aslong as he's OK that's all that matters.