confused2013
Feb 20, 2014, 02:18 PM
Now to anyone who has helped me with my previous problem, thank you. My ex with the hygiene problem/being clingy was dumped! The problem kept coming back and after the third time it happened, I couldn't deal with it anymore...
I'm now however faced with another problem. Please judge everything based on this story only, and give me some advice please...
Basically to cut long story short, I met my ex in 2010, we were together for 3 and half years on and off. The relationship was a bit up and down, but mostly up but then bam! He cheated on me. He didn't do anything physically but online flirting with different women, that's still cheating right? He apologised and begged me so much that he was turning up unannounced at my house, ringing my mum, sis, friends, my workplace to speak to me. I eventually got him arrested because this went on for a month/more and he just wouldn't stop. His family told him to give me some space but he wouldn't listen which was why I made the decision to get the police involved. After this, I wouldn't talk to him and he attempted suicide on two different occasions. He was then forced to take up counselling and he's been doing that.
I started talking to him again during his counselling and I feel he's been completely different from what he use to be. I've always told him he needed therapy even when we were together as two of his younger brothers passed away when they were only young and he's not coped well since. He just bottles a lot of things up.
He wants us to work things out and I am considering it. The problem is, my family will NEVER accept us being together and his family are being silly about things as well especially because I got the police involved.
What do I do? I genuinely feel like he could be or shall I say becoming a changed person after this counselling and I would love to try again. I mean it might not work out again, but I feel like I need to try, to know for sure. Life is about taking chances. If we do try, what do we do about our families?
I'm now however faced with another problem. Please judge everything based on this story only, and give me some advice please...
Basically to cut long story short, I met my ex in 2010, we were together for 3 and half years on and off. The relationship was a bit up and down, but mostly up but then bam! He cheated on me. He didn't do anything physically but online flirting with different women, that's still cheating right? He apologised and begged me so much that he was turning up unannounced at my house, ringing my mum, sis, friends, my workplace to speak to me. I eventually got him arrested because this went on for a month/more and he just wouldn't stop. His family told him to give me some space but he wouldn't listen which was why I made the decision to get the police involved. After this, I wouldn't talk to him and he attempted suicide on two different occasions. He was then forced to take up counselling and he's been doing that.
I started talking to him again during his counselling and I feel he's been completely different from what he use to be. I've always told him he needed therapy even when we were together as two of his younger brothers passed away when they were only young and he's not coped well since. He just bottles a lot of things up.
He wants us to work things out and I am considering it. The problem is, my family will NEVER accept us being together and his family are being silly about things as well especially because I got the police involved.
What do I do? I genuinely feel like he could be or shall I say becoming a changed person after this counselling and I would love to try again. I mean it might not work out again, but I feel like I need to try, to know for sure. Life is about taking chances. If we do try, what do we do about our families?