My children's mother lives with us. We intended on getting married in June 2013. After the advice from our marriage counselor (pastor) we decided to postpone it. Things are not getting better, actually worse. I have been asking her (for over 18 months) to get a part time job to help with our bills. She says that she can't find one. She has no secondary education and won't work in retail, among many other things she has ruled out.

We have a van in both our names that I pay for. The home loan / title is only in my name. We went through this before after our first child was born and we have a shared parenting plan, I get every other weekend and 1 night during the week. The other child we have no agreement. My daughter is 6 and in kindergarten my son is 3. She is verbally abusive to all of us. We were trying to work though it but I am sick of everything. I am tired of being unhappy and watching the way she interacts with my children. What do I need to do to evict her?

She will have no place to go but her dads which is in a different school district and he only has 3 bedrooms. If I evict her can she legally take our children? Can I stop her from taking the van which has both of our names on it, but I am the only one who pays for it. I am afraid of her crashing in to someone and getting sued, I am the only one that has anything to lose.

We live in Ohio. I am planning on retaining a lawyer. I would like to know what to expect. I don't want her taking our kids.

In general, aside from specific state laws, and aside from court orders, either parent can take their mutual children as long as they don't go into hiding. How is that you mention visitation for the older one? Was she living elsewhere then? I see nothing wrong with 3 bedrooms for a father, daughter, and 2 children, at ages 6 and 2.

Either one of you can take a vehicle that is in both your names, regardless of who pays for what.

Did you write about this last year? It all sounds very familiar.

(PS: You say my son and my daughter, but they are both of yours.)

How come you have a parenting plan if you live together? Was this court ordered? If there is no court order then yes she can take the children and the van. You would need to go to court for custody.