I'm not going to go into details but my brother-in-law was having a nervous break down and me, my sister, and my mom believed what he was saying (this was before we knew it was a nervous brake down). 2 nights ago he shows up in my bed naked and asks if he can have me... the thing is he's always liked me turns out and he says if I don't do this he will die and if I don't do this I would be selfish... so I walked in my sister and bro in laws room... my sister was naked under the blankets... he made me touch her vag and long story short... I might be pregnant, and I don't know... my first kiss was from my friend who molested me in my sleep and I lost my virginity to my bro-in-law that ended up having a sicotic brake down... I was afraid to sleep last night because of this... I slept on my mom and dads floor... now I have no clue how to tell my mom this and I'm terrified to death... I was at gymnastics yesterday and usually when I do gymnastics the whole world doesn't matter and I can do what I love... now all I could think about was am I going to hurt the baby doing this or should I be doing hand stands... the only thing I want afraid to do was the rope and vale cause that didn't involve flipping or anything dangerous (im still a beginner so there was no really flipping more just jumping on the valt and seeing how high you can jump)... im really scared and I don't know what to do... please somebody help me

How old are you?
How old is he?
What country do you live in?
Why did your sister allow this?
Why did you allow this?
How could you know if you're pregnant 2 days after you did this?

It is too early to tell if you're pregnant...but depending on your answers to my questions, there might be more to this.

I'm 16, he's 29... I live in the US... we allowed this because we believed him... and I don't know if I'm pregnant but the thought of it is scaring my half to death

You're going to need to wait until you've missed a period. That is the only way to know. If, by two week from when you should have gotten it, you haven't had your period that is when you need to get a home pregnancy test and use it. I don't think this is the big issue here.

Um statutory rape? I would go to the cops first then your parents. There is nothing right about this.

As well, considering the medical and legal ramifications of this, I am going to refrain from commenting further.

I already told my parents and he's going to a Syke ward right now... my poor sister, she has 3 kids and one on the way... and thanks CravenMorhead (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/members/cravenmorhead.html) for calming my down a little bit :)

I'm 16, he's 29... I live in the US... we allowed this because we believed him... and I don't know if I'm pregnant but the thought of it is scaring my half to death

You allowed him and your sister to molest you because you believed he was having a psychotic break? How old is your sister? Why didn't she get him the psychological help he needs instead of urging him to have a threesome with her and her sister?

At two days after sex you're not even officially pregnant. There is no baby to hurt yet, it's not even implanted. So nothing you do right now would hurt the baby if you are pregnant.

Wait until your period is at least 2 weeks late, then test using first morning urine.

Tell your parents that your brother-in-law and your sister, raped you, and then go to the police with this, have them both arrested.

No my sister was not really a part of it... she was just laying there next to me... she did nothing... and ok thanks :) I needed to hear that Alty (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/members/alty.html)... and I had no idea he was having a psychotic break intill today....and like i said my bro-in-law is now in the psych ward

No my sister was not really a part of it... she was just laying there next to me... she did nothing... and ok thanks :) I needed to hear that Alty (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/members/alty.html)... and I had no idea he was having a psychotic break intill today....and like i said my bro-in-law is now in the psych ward

Okay, now I'm confused. He lured you into his bed, told you to touch your sisters vagina, had sex with you, and the reason you allowed this was because you thought he was having a psychotic break? But you only found out that he was having a psychotic break today?

As for your sister, she certainly was a part of this. She allowed this to happen. The fact that she just lay there next to you and let it happen, doesn't make her innocent. She's an adult, you're a child. She has a legal responsibility to intervene. She let you touch her, she let him rape you, and she's just as guilty as he is. She needs to be charged. I can only imagine what she allows this man to do to her children. Obviously there's no limit for her, there's no line she won't cross or allow him to cross.

He said he would kill himself if I didn't do it... he forced me and my sister

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Wow! You were just raped by your brother-in-law and your sister, and you post about dying your hair?

When I was raped, the last thing on my mind two days later, was dying my hair, or making myself look pretty.

Obviously this isn't bothering you as much as you claim it is.

He said he would kill himself if I didn't do it... he forced me and my sister

If he threatened to kill himself your sister should have called the cops, and have him committed. That's what a sane person would do. Instead she allowed him to invite you in for a threesome.

No where in a logical adults mind would you say "Oh, he threatened to kill himself, so I have no choice but to let him rape my sister. I have no choice but to participate in that rape".

That's such a load of bull!

I'm not going to go into details but my brother-in-law was having a nervous break down and me, my sister, and my mom believed what he was saying (this was before we knew it was a nervous brake down).

What was he saying that your sister and mother believed?

When he threatened to kill himself if you didn't have a threesome... you should have asked him if you could watch and tape him doing it... just to see his reaction. That's the biggest crock of (insert euphamism for manure) I have ever heard of a guy saying... and I'm a guy. I can't believe anyone actually believed him. Thats a far bigger crock than the age old claim he'd die of bueballs. Which is another flat out lie some try.

I know... im stupied and to answer alty... this is bothering me, but I try to do stuff to get my mind off it so I'm not consumed by it... Cat1864 (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/members/cat1864.html)... its a very long story and I kind of feel stupied for believing it now... smoothy (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/members/smoothy.html)... I should have but we don't have a video camera and trust me with how much he talked there would be enough film... im just confused about the whole thing now and I'm trying to get my mind off it

You said that you told your parents, and that your BIL (brother-in-law) is now in psychiatric care.

Have the police been notified about this? What are your parents doing to help you get through this? What's the plan?

Thanks for trying to help alty :)... my brothers coming over and he's going to help me call the police... my dads at band practice (hes in a jazz swing band) trying to get his mind off it like me (if he doesn't he'll probably go to the hospital and strangle him.. my dads pissed)... my moms comforting me by making me chicken :) YUM!. and the plan is my brothers coming over were going to call the police and then take it from there... when I say brother I mean I have a biological brother

I do agree with everyone who mentioned that your sister was a part of this. She too should be punished for her actions... or no actions for that matter. I hope that you press charges.

I will... but not right now... like I said I'm waiting for my brother to come over and help me with this

I'm glad that the police are going to be called. As a parent, I'm a bit shocked that your parents haven't done this. You will need their help to get through this. They can't just make chicken and go to band practice and hope this will disappear.

I do understand their concern. One daughter has been violated, and the other daughter helped. One will need extensive therapy, the other will end up in jail. It's not an easy position to be in, torn between two children. But, they have to protect you. You're a child. Your sister isn't. Your sister needs to pay for her part in this, as does her husband. Your sister should have known better, she should have protected you from her husband. Like I said before, she allowed this to happen, and I can only imagine what she allows him to do to their own children.

If he is indeed psychotic, he'll still go to jail, but at least he has a medical condition that might explain why he did something so horrific. But your sister, she has no excuse at all. Of the two of them I feel she is more to blame than he is, based on what you posted.

I know.. I love my parents but sometimes there bad with bad situations... and OK thanks for helping :)

I know.. I love my parents but sometimes there bad with bad situations... and OK thanks for helping :)

Oh I get that. I'm a parent, I have two beautiful kids. My son is only a year younger than you are.

I was molested as a child by my cousin. I never told my parents. I was raped when I was 18, by someone I knew. I never told my parents. The main reason was fear that my dad would end up in jail for killing the two bastards that did this to me.

But he wouldn't have buried his head in the sand and ignored it. He would have been angry, but not at me. He would have fought for me. I know this for a fact.

I think the main reason I didn't tell is that I didn't want them to ever look at me and think I was different. I didn't want them to look at me and only see what had happened to me. But I know they would have helped me every way they could, and not by making chicken for dinner, or leaving the house, leaving me, and letting me deal with it on my own. They definitely wouldn't have called someone else to deal with it. They would have made sure that the two people that did this, went where they belonged. In jail.

Your parents need to start being parents. Yes, it's hard to accept that one daughter was raped, and the other daughter and her husband raped her. But it is what it is. They have to be parents here. They have to do what's right, no matter how hard it is.

That's what being a parent is all about.

They better wise up, and quick. You need them right now. You don't need yummy chicken.

Thanks and I know how you feel... and I know my parents need to do that... but there's not much to do now... thats why my dad went to band practice... everything will fall into place tomorrow... and my mom is watching my nieces while my sister and bro-in-law are at the hospital... im just trying to relax... im think how do I'm just afraid this is just going to keep happeneing... I want to get married and have children someday but I don't know if my future husband would be another version of my bro-in-law and that just scares me to death...

Thanks and I know how you feel... and I know my parents need to do that... but there's not much to do now... thats why my dad went to band practice... everything will fall into place tomorrow... and my mom is watching my nieces while my sister and bro-in-law are at the hospital... im just trying to relax... im think how do I'm just afraid this is just going to keep happeneing... I want to get married and have children someday but I don't know if my future husband would be another version of my bro-in-law and that just scares me to death...

Your brother in law is a rapist, and his mental issues are not the norm. Your sister, she's also a rapist, and hopefully her children will never be subjected to her parenting ever again.

As for there not being much to do, there is. Your parents need to support you right now. Your dad is being a chicken, burying his head in the sand. How can he go to band practice and leave you alone to deal with this while your mom makes you your yummy smiley chicken and also buries her head in the sand?

Keep happening? Hell no! It won't. Once you talk to the police about this both your BIL and your sister will be arrested for rape. You won't ever have to deal with them again. Nor will their children. You owe it to your nieces and nephews to make sure both their parents go to jail, so that not only you, but those children, are safe from them.

I was molested and raped. I found myself a wonderful man, had two beautiful children with him, and I'm living a wonderful life. There's no reason to think that the same won't happen to you. Life is what you make it.

I do suggest counseling, for your entire family, not just you. This isn't going to be easy. Going to court and testifying against your BIL and sister, isn't going to be easy. But it needs to be done. Jail is where they both belong. Don't think only of yourself, think about their children, and what they possibly have done, or will do, to them. If you're not off limits for their warped depravity, their sex games, neither are their kids.

Your dad went to band practice and you mom is making you chicken? There is really something wrong with this scenario.

Either you are trolling us or your family doesn't care about you. This is NOT how parents react to the rape of their child by anyone, much less a family member.

While I am very sympathetic to rape victims, true victims, not willing participants who scream rape later, I find so many holes in your story that I am inclined not to believe a word you are saying.

Alty (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/members/alty.html)... turns out in not pregnant... im glad!. and I thought my dad knew about it before he went to band practice... he
Didn't... and my mom was making supper waiting for my brother to come to the house and I just got home from the hospital

Mary,
How can you be sure your not pregnant already? Is there some test they do at the hospital? Did you and your brother call the police or go to the police station? And were charges filed?

I got my period yesterday... yes they did tests... yes we called the cops... and yes we filed charges

That is all very good news. Next step would be counseling.

Did you figure out what color for your hair?