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fillman31
Jan 11, 2014, 08:10 AM
My ex girlfriend was in South Carolina last week for New Years Eve. She was drinking and barely drinks much, she said, and got really sick threw up and was really sick the whole next day. Saturday when she got home she and I noticed increase in the amount that she was eating, also that she had gained some weight. So this Thursday we found out that she was pregnant. However she thinks that she got pregnant New Years Eve by a guy down there. She said that she had her period in December, at least she think she did, but she said it was not a normal one. She had that on or around the 13th to the 16th of December, however we had sex on December 2nd. Is it more likely that she conceived on the 2nd of December or New Years Eve?

It's hard to believe that just three days later she could be experiencing hunger and glow and weight gain. I think she was pregnant before New Years. Just looking for an opinion.

talaniman
Jan 11, 2014, 08:41 AM
Likely not pregnant by the New Year guy.

odinn7
Jan 11, 2014, 09:04 AM
Likely she wouldn't be showing anything in either of the two situations you suggested as there isn't enough time passed.

How do you know she is pregnant?

If there is any question as to who the father is, and it certainly sounds like there is, you may want a DNA test done when the baby is born...I mean, I know I wouldn't so freely want to accept her word for it and wind up paying child support for someone else's kid.

fillman31
Jan 11, 2014, 10:01 AM
She took two pregnancy tests. She isn't showing much but she is always skinny and now she is bigger. She has has been eating non stop since the 4th or 5th and her mom called her out on her glow. Plus frequent urinating. Her and o had sex while she was ovulating dec 2nd. I still feoel she was pregnant before she went to South Carolina for new years eve

talaniman
Jan 11, 2014, 10:03 AM
I wouldn't believe anything an ex said, let alone have sex with her. She is an ex for a reason, and who knows what she is about now. Don't make any promises you can't keep, or assume she is truthful, or accurate.

Trust(?), but verify?

odinn7
Jan 11, 2014, 10:06 AM
I'd still do that test when the baby is born...just sayin'

fillman31
Jan 11, 2014, 11:50 AM
Anybody else have any opinions on the matter?

timboslice222
Jan 11, 2014, 12:45 PM
If your dates are correct its yours and not the new years guys... but I wouldn't mess with a girl who's having unprotected sex with two people close enough in time to not know the father... but get a paternity test after birth because you're only going off her word and she might not be 100% truthful of who and when she was with.. but good luck

fillman31
Jan 11, 2014, 03:02 PM
She told her mom she had her dec period but she said it wasn't normal. And the symptoms she has are to far along.

J_9
Jan 11, 2014, 03:10 PM
It would be in your best interests to have a DNA test done after the baby is born.

talaniman
Jan 11, 2014, 03:15 PM
Maybe some background into the relationship could help like how long where you a couple why you broke up and how long had you been broken up could shed better light on this situation.

Why are you banging an ex and all of a sudden she is pregnant? No birth control or what? Who knows what she means about NORMAL period. To many unknown factors here my man. Too much uncertainty. Maybe the New Year guy hit it before New Year. Or someone else did and that's a strong possibility because she may not be forthcoming with all the facts you need.

timboslice222
Jan 11, 2014, 03:25 PM
She told her mom she had her dec period but she said it wasn't normal. And the symptoms she has are to far along.

Yeah the symptoms seem to be happrning to soon I think she got pregnant at an earlier date

fillman31
Jan 11, 2014, 04:59 PM
I am taking her to get an ultra sound to see cause it will depend how far along she is to who is the father

Today my girlfriend was experiencing frequent urination, cramping, she was farting and she fell down cause she was dizzy and light headed.. just curious how far along she might be.

J_9
Jan 11, 2014, 08:12 PM
It is impossible to tell you how far along she is by symptoms alone. To determine gestation a doctor would go by her LMP as well as an ultrasound.

fillman31
Jan 11, 2014, 08:20 PM
Well we had sex on dec 2nd and she thought she had her period on dec 15th but she told me it wasnr normal but spotty so her last steady stream was from nov 11 to 16th.


Also on new years eve she had some drinks and got sick and threw up and was sick the whole next day. She took 2 pregnancy tests this past thurs and they both came up positive

J_9
Jan 11, 2014, 08:24 PM
Yeah I know. I read your other thread. No need to continue posting new threads on the same issue as they will be deleted as duplicates.


I thought she was your EX girlfriend. If not, she should be.

talaniman
Jan 11, 2014, 09:04 PM
A doctor can answer all your questions so why hasn't she gone to one. Why do you keep starting new questions about the same thing but give us no feedback or input, like some background as to the actual relationship.

Then we wouldn't have to suspect this whole thing was a big ploy to get you back, or play with your mind about a drunken sex romp on the holiday. Who are you trying to convince this is your kid even if she is pregnant? She can tell you anything she wants.

fillman31
Jan 11, 2014, 09:14 PM
We were together for 6 months we broke up around christmas and that's why she went to South Carolina to see a guy for new years. So the only other time she has had sex with anyone other then me would have been that night.

J_9
Jan 11, 2014, 09:16 PM
You will have to wait until the DNA test is done. Sorry, but there is no other way to know beyond a shadow of a doubt.

Fr_Chuck
Jan 11, 2014, 09:42 PM
She would not be showing pregnant from sex that was 12 days ago. Not on a home pregnancy test anyway. So no it would not be the guy from news year eve.

Also remember that any and all conception dates will be give or take a week. ( even two week )