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escapingreality
Jan 7, 2014, 03:04 PM
I was with a friend in a shisha bar just hanging out smoking chilling. This girl is my best friend me and went through everything together I've know her since 5 years she is like my soul mate. Anyway we have gone to this place many times before with other friends because its fun, I guess when we need a place to be ourselves and not to be judge by all these immature people in my school we do it. Couple days before, me and my friend went there alone. We went with these guy friends and met people who treated us so nice and were really sweet and caring and talking about school, and how we need to work hard. They were around 29. We were careful with them but we though of them as friends, not close, just friends.

So when we saw them again alone in the shisha bar, we chilled with them, and one of them said come have dinner with us. We really didn't want to be rude, because he didn't speak very good English so my friend said maybe, but he kept on asking and asking and she said yes. I had a talk with her in the bathroom saying we can't go to their house, bad things will happen, we won't do it come on we cant. She said we should, they are very serious about these things they wouldn't touch us. She really wanted to go and I wasn't going to leave her alone so I left with her.

I thought we were going to walk to the house, but even worse we took the car, but they really showed no sign, they actually started singing. It was really fun at the biginning. When we arrived at the house they weren't planning to cook they just put music on and said dance now dance with us. We stayed on the couch as long as we could but they were big so they lifted us up and forced us to dance and after that one guy took my friend to a room, and I was so scared for her. I wasn't even worrying about me until the guy that was with me tried to kiss me and then tugged on my shirt. I told him to stop to get away and I tried to get my friend but they had locked the door and he pulled my skirt up and the rest I don't want to say.

When my friend came out I could tell she was about to burst in tears too. I decided I needed to be the strong one and I held her whispering its okay its all good. I then told them "WE ARE GOING HOME" and walked out the house and one of them that did it to my friend was like I will drive you or your not leaving. So we got in the car with him again and my friend was shaking and tears falling I was about to start crying too but I needed to be strong just for her. When we got off, I brought her to my house and me and her took a bath together and just hugged the entire night. We didn't talk to anyone for a long time and still now we are very frightened of guys, their touch burns my skin but I try to be strong for her when she's down and cheer her up, but the problem you see is I'm starting to die inside. I can no longer be strong I'm about to break.

odinn7
Jan 7, 2014, 03:08 PM
Have you gone to the police?

escapingreality
Jan 7, 2014, 03:11 PM
No I haven't nobody knows except my friend we don't want too.

schan
Jan 7, 2014, 03:15 PM
First step is you should go to the police and report it. Who knows, those guys are still most likely floating around and scouting for more victims. For your and your friend's own justice and for the safety of other women in the area, I highly suggest you report it. Unfortunately, you weren't able to help you and your friend, but at least you'll be able to help others.

Best wishes to you, and I'm sorry to hear what have happened to you and your friend.

escapingreality
Jan 7, 2014, 03:21 PM
I guess I will report it but what I forgot to mention is they found our numbers and scare us and say they will do it again that's why I don't use a phone anymore

schan
Jan 7, 2014, 04:06 PM
I feel that's why reporting is the best thing to do. The cops (hopefully if they do their jobs right) will find and arrest them so they won't be able to do it anymore. You'll be able to move on with your life and feel free and happy.

smoothy
Jan 7, 2014, 07:04 PM
What country did this occur in? The police in some countries take this a LOT more seriously than others.

escapingreality
Jan 8, 2014, 02:01 AM
I want to remain anon on this site except for sharing stories because I don't want anyone I know to read these thigs

J_9
Jan 8, 2014, 02:38 AM
I want to remain anon on this site except for sharing stories because I don't want anyone I know to read these thigs
You are anonymous. No one on this site knows you by anything but "escapingreality" as your name.

It is imperative that you report this to your local police as soon as possible. I'm certain you don't want this to happen to other young girls.

Fr_Chuck
Jan 8, 2014, 05:44 AM
Yes, stop posting and start reporting.

Do you want this to happen to other women ? Men like this will do it more and more, if they get away with it.

Time to call the police and report it.

smoothy
Jan 8, 2014, 06:21 AM
Laws vary greatly... if you can't tell us what country you are in... (we don't need to know what city you are in) then our advice can't be any more specific than it has been. Because other than telling you to call the police... there is no other answer that would apply everywhere.

Cat1864
Jan 8, 2014, 07:36 AM
How long ago did this happen?

We need to know your general location to know what resources are available to you. Not only police but counseling and support groups.

You both need support from other people. You cannot continue to be the only support for your friend. You need to talk to people who have been through this and can show you that you are not alone. People who can explain that you both may have made unwise choices but you are not to blame for what happened and any feelings of guilt are misplaced.

You are not responsible for what happened to your friend. You are her friend and not her protector. It is not your place to shoulder the full responsibility. You both need help in accepting the choices you made and letting any guilty feelings for making those choices go. Being forced or coerced into doing something against your will puts the responsibility of their actions squarely on the males who preyed on you. You do not give implied consent just because you went to their house. You do not give up the right to say 'no' just because you went to their house.

Getting help from all available resources will empower you to take back your life and confidence. It won't be easy and you will have negative moments, but the positive feelings that come from holding your head up high and rebuilding your self-confidence will give you the strength to move forward.

CravenMorhead
Jan 8, 2014, 08:12 AM
This likely happened in Austria, which is assuming that there's no proxy servers, traffic routing, or spoofing going on. Given that Austria is a progressive Western Country, I have to assume that their criminal justice system is similar to most others in the EU and north america. There was some mention that a large portion of Sexual Assaults aren't reported in that country, I wonder why that is and if it could be the reason she's not gone to the police yet. Since she's had a bath, she's probably destroyed some physical evidence. Regardless go to the police, this isn't acceptable and needs to be dealt with. Not dealing with it will legitimize it in the minds of those who raped her. If you're not going to get caught why stop committing the crime.

Besides getting her counselling for the mental trauma and issues it is going to create, going to the police is the best option for you and her.

Good luck.

tickle
Jan 23, 2014, 02:55 PM
Austria is part of Germany, Crave, so yes Germany is a very progressive country, but how do you account for the excellent English ?

CravenMorhead
Jan 23, 2014, 03:48 PM
Some of the people I know with the best English have English as a secondary language. Though when you start inspecting what she's saying, it starts to make sense.

I just read the thread about her abusive parents. If it is true I feel for the young lady. It will take great strength to get her through this part of her life.

I don't believe any of this is true though. I think she's trolling the site. There are far too many inconsistencies in her stories that make be wonder. Too many things that just seem like someone is writing a bad FOX sitcom. Take it as you will.

smoothy
Jan 23, 2014, 04:03 PM
I've spent some time in Austria and been through it a few times... its a fair bit different in mindset from the people in Germany at least from my personal experience with locals, I can honestly say I don't have a very positive opinion of the Austrian police (long story) as compared to some of the others in Europe though I do have a positive opinion of the Austrian people in General.

I think Tickle Mispoke or made a poor choice in words..its not part of Germany....though some of its territory has changed ownership with Germany several times in recent history.