Hi there,

I'm a married man with 2 children. I met a teen girl when she was 18 and I was 23, it was 17 years ago. I fell in love with her and she also did.
She has married for 7 years and I have married for 14 years, she is also with 2 children now.
To be honest, I didn't forget her for the last 17 years.
I met her 2 months ago and I talked to her; I informed her I never forgot her even after I got married, she answered the same.
We have been in touch for the last 2 months and she expressed her love to me very strongly, I also did.
Now, she is afraid I will disappear from her life again and she keeps asking not to do it.
She loves her husband and her children, I also love my wife and my children.
She often punishes herself since she thinks she is wrong and she should not be in touch with me since she is married and she should be loyal to her family.
Now, please advise for your suggestion.

Regards

Hi there,

I'm a married man with 2 children. I met a teen girl when she was 18 and I was 23, it was 17 years ago. I fell in love with her and she also did.
She has married for 7 years and I have married for 14 years, she is also with 2 children now.
To be honest, I didn't forget her for the last 17 years.
I met her 2 months ago and I talked to her; I informed her I never forgot her even after I got married, she answered the same.
We have been in touch for the last 2 months and she expressed her love to me very strongly, I also did.
Now, she is afraid I will disappear from her life again and she keeps asking not to do it.
She loves her husband and her children, I also love my wife and my children.
She often punishes herself since she thinks she is wrong and she should not be in touch with me since she is married and she should be loyal to her family.
Now, please advise for your suggestion.

Regards
Of course ,your love is true and honest and her's so.
But just a time to think practically...
If you guys started meeting frequently... love will so stronger and stronger...
At the same time who both will start forgetting about your 14 and 7 years married life
And avoid a relationship with wife and husband respectively.Then consequently giving
Less time your family and children's and more time to your love, will affect personal
Professional life as well.Moreover,Family will loose all the happiness... You guys wanted
That to happen? Then keep going with your relation...

If you think the pain of unfulfilled love is bad, wait till you experience the pain of the betrayed love of your wife and children. DON'T DO IT!! That way lies misery, heartache, and humiliation. It can't possibly be worth the cost.

The memory of love is often different when it is have to be lived every day.

You are married and she is married, break off all contact at once, Period, there is no other choice.

The grass is always greener on the other side. Past loves often have the memory of perfection and innocence. What a load of baloney! You only want to remember what was sweet and pure in your eyes.

My advice is to quit punishing yourselves over the infidelity you both want to commit and walk away from each other. You both have committed family relationships. If you do not wish to honor that, then you are a sorry piece of humanity. If you do not wish to honor your wife, then what about your children? Do you want them to know their Father is unfaithful (there are many words to describe that)? Think of the consequences - in real terms - not the fantasy of a long ago love.

If you want to pursue this woman - then do it honestly - be a free man and she needs to be a free woman. You both get divorced and then you two can play house.

I honestly think that you walking away form each other again will be hard to do.

But then again, you two being together will 'ruin' two families. :rolleyes:

One thing I didn't get: how did you lose track of each other 17 years ago? What happened?