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popsiclestick77
Dec 14, 2013, 03:20 PM
Help! I'm 17 years old and my mom won't let me date or have sex until I am 35 years old! I can't even have my first kiss until that age! All of the people at my school have girlfriends/boyfriends and I don't because I'm not allowed! She has been doing this kind of stuff to me since I was little. I was never allowed to have friends over, or go to friends houses or have sleepovers or parties, NOTHING! At all! Now she's telling me I can't date and get married until 35. Isn't that late to have children?

Curlyben
Dec 14, 2013, 03:22 PM
Once you reach majority and become an ADULT your mother can no longer make these demands, but while you live under her roof then you must abide by her rules.

Homegirl 50
Dec 14, 2013, 03:26 PM
Well first of all, once you are on your own you can do what you want. So finish high school, go to college if you're going and get a job. Once you are on your own she can't tell you what you can or can't do. And 35 is not to old to have babies.
You should not be having sex until you can afford to take care of a child.

tickle
Dec 14, 2013, 04:24 PM
Stand up to her! She is a bully of the worst kind, even if she is your mom!

odinn7
Dec 14, 2013, 05:24 PM
Soooo....you're planning on living with your mother until you're 35?

joypulv
Dec 15, 2013, 02:07 AM
A 17 year old who actually believes that she will be under her mother's control at age 35?
And dating is one thing; putting sex in the same sentence at your age is another.
If your friends are all having sex, some of them are bound to be very, very sorry, when they get pregnant or disease, or even just heartbreak.

Where do you live?

xTiffanyx
Dec 15, 2013, 06:00 AM
Once you reach your adult age your mum can no longer tell you what to do... so you're in charge of your love life

talaniman
Dec 15, 2013, 07:28 AM
When you are independent, you can chart your own path. When that will be is up to you.

mogrann
Dec 15, 2013, 07:30 AM
Get your education, get a good job and move out. Then any control she wants to have on your life is gone. If that thought scares you or you think it is not possible than may I suggest some counseling as you may have been raised to believe that will never happen. Some moms control too much of their children's lives and do not realize the apron strings need to be cut at some point.