aamir5373
Nov 26, 2013, 08:19 AM
In Islam, what is the parents role in marriage of male/female child?
Can parents totally select life partner of their child, without displaying to child's?
If parents do that by force then what is the order to a child in Islam?
Vietnam
Nov 26, 2013, 10:34 AM
Islam teaches that parents and relatives, who know their children best, are to look for mates for them and then arrange meetings between them (supervised with girl's father present during the whole interview). Parents do not arrange the marriage completely. They only arrange the meetings so that the choices are to be based on candidates that are the most compatible with the personalities and characteristics of each other. Parents definitely know their children and they also have a better idea of the potential of their children than a stranger might have. So, this becomes a more logical approach than having the youth just meeting each other by chance and then going out together and trying to impress each other by being something that they are not. Also there is no pressure from their friends at school, college or work to look a certain way or be seen with the "right person." To me, marriage is between love and happiness between both of you, not between your parents decisions. I would totally run away. I would not want to live with someone I don't love. Hope that helps!:)