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samnatha
Mar 30, 2007, 07:05 PM
When I was a child 8 to 13 I was getind raped by my aunts boyfriend.Now I fear everyman.even my husband. He took what meant the most to me. I'm scared to go out I'm scared to be alone. My mom never did put him in jail and I see him allmost everyday of my life and all I know to do is cry and I freeze I can't move. I want to get were I'm not scared so I can live a normal life but I don't know how. I want to get rid of the nightmares but I don't know how to get rid of them. When my husband tries to hold me I jump a pull away and its hurting our marriage but I don't know what to do. How can I get over what happened? Can I ever?

Fr_Chuck
Mar 30, 2007, 07:43 PM
I am so sorry this is happening, first of course if you still live where you see this low life, make sure everyone knows about him, take control.
Next perhaps moving where you don't see him all the time.

But in the end you need professional counseling by someone experienced in rape victims. It will take years and you learn to deal,

vlee
Mar 30, 2007, 10:29 PM
You can get through this, and therapy is a great start. Also, as an adult, you choose where you go. Avoid anyplace that "he" is likely to be. A therapist can help you work through the fear, and the feelings of anger and disappointment you probably have toward your mother for failing to stand up for you legally.