Hi. My situation is hard and I don't know what I should do. Me and my girlfriend have been together almost two years. She is everything, the most amazing person in the world. She is Australian with Italian background and I am an immigrant from Russia, living in Sydney for 5 years. Almost everything in our relations is perfect, but some things affected and brought us to this situation. Just because I have a very different background to all other people, for 5 years of my life in Sydney I have seen a lot of married couples, cheating on their husbands, boyfriends. This made me not to trust people and this affected my relations. In our time together we could have happy weeks without any problems, but then on Friday or weekends when she occasionally has to work, she doesn't message me for the whole day and I freak out. Three weeks ago she didn't know if she is going to work or not, but ask me if we should have that weekend off and I was upset but didn't show that to her. She said she wanted to see me so much, but work and nothing she could do about it. Especially because she is the manager at a coffee shop and we have the closest relations with the family who owns it. On Sunday that weekend due to my problems in other sides of my life after her message that she sent me, saying that she didn't need to work this weekend, but she is going to see her friend for a bit. I exploded and said to her if you didn't want to see, you should have told me that. Then we had an argument that led to this break but the situation is much harder than it sounds.

The problem is that periodically I react like that and she said to me "I am sick of you acting like that". She didn't talk to me for a two days. We messaged each other but only because she was worried about me not finding a new place to live as I had to move out of the house. Then on Tuesday following week I decided to go to her place because I felt like she is going to break up with me. I came to her place, begged her to give the last chance. She said that she is sick of me acting like that, and she is right. For two years I thought she will be with me, without any changes or improvements. For two years she is been trying to correct my English and I did listen to her at first but then repeated same mistakes over and over again. By sending this stupid messages I showed her that I never trusted her, even though she has never ever showed amy signs of cheating or even looking at other guys, because she said to me I am the one and she is so happy with me. I also said to her that I failed to my dad, my brother, and her because I promised things and some of them never delivered. I said to her that everything brought me to this line, because I thought this can continue forever, and that night I asked her for the last chance. I said to her I don't want to break up and I begged her for the last chance. She cried a lot and said that she doesn't have any reasons to believe me until she will see changes. She said she needs a break. Then we hugged and kissed each other and I left.

Next day she messaged me at 10 pm, sent just a kiss face. I replied with the same. Then on Thursday at 10 pm again she asked me how I am and we had a bit of conversation and I honestly felt like she gave me the last chance. But on Sat that week I had to move in to a new place and everything went wrong. Owners changed their mind and I had no place to go was in panic as on Sun I had to move out. I called her she didn't want to pick up. Then send me a message saying I don't want to talk but I am giving you the last chance. So through messages I explained her what happened and she said, me and her mum will pick me up tomorrow and I will stay in their house until I find a place. I know it was stupid. I could just dropped my stuff there and live with my brother until I find a new place but I stayed with them for a week. I was downstairs, barely saw her as I was trying to escape any contacts with her but then on Sunday a week after I stayed with them I moved into a new place. Last week we talked occasionally only short messages and I could see that she is not happy with everything. Her mum also said that she is very stressed at work now, last contact with her was on Sat last week. Along the conversation I asked if she is planning to break up she responded she doesn't know I asked her if she still loves me. She said I'll always love you. Since then we haven't been jn touch.

Guys I honestly don't know what to do. We had so much for two years and leaving her that Sunday for me it looked like she changed her mind and from giving me the last chance now she doesn't know if she wants to be together or not but she said when I will see changes then I will believe you. I honestly don't know what to do. I can't believe she would break up with me after two years being together. We have so much, her mum and all family loves me and the problem is that I said to her I will be another person I will change. I will do everything to change because she is everything I have. Then she said she feels like we are two different people and eventually will break up but I responded saying that I don't care if we will be together in 2, 3 years at this moment I want to save everything we have and I know I can change. I don't want to break up like that when I know that those changes are nothing and I can do it. She said until I will see them I won't believe you. N

Now as I said since last Saturday we haven't talked, messaged not even a sign and I know it's hard for her. She said that but like last Friday she went out with her friends. When I think about it all the time, she is going out even though I know that she is very unhappy with everything at this moment. I honestly don't know what to do and what after this break she would tell me it's over. Then why she can't tell me this now. Everyone makes mistakes and I asked her for the last chance and now I don't know what she is thinking and what she will do. I honestly am so lost.

Holy crap dude - honestly I would break up with you as well.

1. One last chance? For what? You won't change your controlling behaviors and hot headed temper.
2. Relationships are difficult enough so why add all that drama to them? You are picking on the little stuff and it is a big waste of time. She is allowed to go see a friend. She is allowed to not see you every minute of every day. She is allowed to break up with you.
3. "Just because I have a very different background to all other people" - Everyone has a very different background from everyone so stop making excuses.
4. "due to my problems in other sides of my life" - another excuse.
5. Think about her side. She likes you to some level but she is weighing now whether she likes you enough to put up with all the drama. Guess what - you aren't winning in this.

Sorry to be so blunt but controlling needy behaviors are NOT attractive to anyone. If you do lose her, which I think we be the best decision for both of you, realize what behaviors YOU need to change.

You started this long ramble with jealousy, a common reason people break up.
Your excuse about seeing others cheating making you not have trust is about as lame as I have ever read. You brought mistrust and jealousy with you, before you met her, and it just took a while to surface. That isn't something that is easy to 'just change.' We all feel it to some extent (most of us), but we know that it is poison and will ruin the relationship, so we DON'T ACT ON IT! You wouldn't stop and now she doesn't want you. She told you that you have to prove yourself, so do it - by being alone for a while.
Moving in with her when you could have gone straight to your brother's was a really bad move (sorry, but it was).
All you can do is wait and get your life together and practice being on your own, and if she contacts you, fine. If you can figure out little ways that you are keeping a lid on your jealousy, even better, but you can't force it on her. Just let her call the shots. That's IF this isn't over.

You started this long ramble with jealousy, a common reason people break up.
Your excuse about seeing others cheating making you not have trust is about as lame as I have ever read. You brought mistrust and jealousy with you, before you met her, and it just took a while to surface. That isn't something that is easy to 'just change.' We all feel it to some extent (most of us), but we know that it is poison and will ruin the relationship, so we DON'T ACT ON IT! You wouldn't stop and now she doesn't want you. She told you that you have to prove yourself, so do it - by being alone for a while.
Moving in with her when you could have gone straight to your brother's was a really bad move (sorry, but it was).
All you can do is wait and get your life together and practice being on your own, and if she contacts you, fine. If you can figure out little ways that you are keeping a lid on your jealousy, even better, but you can't force it on her. Just let her call the shots. That's IF this isn't over.

"Your excuse about seeing others cheating making you not have trust is about as lame as I have ever read."

Well said.