View Full Version : Just broke up with my girlfriend with whom I had for 4 years, I want to die.
Deeepsingh
Nov 6, 2013, 07:41 AM
Hi, I met this girl in college, I really love her so much. I have done a lot for this girl, more than her mom or dad. We broke up and again got together always for nearly 10 times by now, but this afternoon we broke up finally. Her aunt called us both for the final decision which we both had to make, I really decied to marry her which even my mom was aware of. All that she did was only crying and didn't even stop me and asked me to leave from their house.
I've been dying since. Last 1 month thinking about her, but she was least bothered and I found her texting her friends about our break up and looks very happy. She just finised her college and got a new job with a awsome salary. She will be reporting next week.
I have always given her everything whatever I earned from job. I've done so much to her which I've never even done to my parents or brother. Normally I am not that emotional guy. I've deleted my FB account, I've switched off my phone. I feel so lonely and all I am left is to suicide. I cry like every second with unknown pain inside me, difficulty in breathing.
Can someone please help me revive my life back?
Regards.
joypulv
Nov 6, 2013, 07:48 AM
I'm sorry for your loss.
Usually it was the woman who supported the man through college - he gets the good job, she gets a PhD "Putting Hubby Through."
It's never easy to know when 'giving' is too much, beyond just love and attention and caring and listening.
You 'gave' too much, it seems, and that's mixed in with the genuine loss of love.
Forget about the money and the things. At least that frees you up to grieve about just the loss of love.
Now grieve you must, because that's what we all do when dumped.
It's good you don't look at her social sites and have any contact.
Try to get all your family and friends to drag you around with them and prop you in a corner, having a good time but not trying to cheer you up.
That's all you can do, until you get to the next stage: keeping busy with work, study, hobbies, athletics, even new activities.
It seems like an eternity, I know. It IS an eternity! Time is relative.
Deeepsingh
Nov 6, 2013, 07:53 AM
Thank you so much buddy... you are right I have to just keep myself busy with stuff like how you mentioned.. I got actually got the whole thing now... this was our break up for the 10th time.. now I wonder why she dint leave all this 9times & now that she has a job she dumped me.. now I am going to show her living my life... This really helped, again thanks a ton...
talaniman
Nov 6, 2013, 10:06 AM
The great news my friend is all that good stuff you did for her you can do for yourself and that alone will not only make things better for you but revive your life big time. Break ups suck but at least you won't be dumped by her again, and can look around and explore your world and do great things for yourself.
Keep the attitude positive as you build a life that you enjoy, with friends, and family, and activities that makes you happy, and you will attract people to share that happiness with.
You should be grateful she set you free to find your own happiness without her, OR her family. You will after the shock wears off, and the grieving process is over and you regain your strength, confidence, and motivation that healing will bring.
All breakups suck for all of us. We survive and thrive.
RonDeRoma
Nov 6, 2013, 05:52 PM
Hey bud you're going to find someone amazing, the one who was meant to be your real half and you're going to look at this thread and laugh. You just have to be strong time heals everything
Deeepsingh
Nov 7, 2013, 05:47 AM
Thank you people, I am really striving hard but this is just following me evrywhere... even this moment when my typing all these I have tears in my eyes.. I am really trying my best to overcome this but I am cluless,helpless,feel like I have nothing left... I have just logged in office, as usuall finished weeping, at home I have my parents who can't take it when I am so dull, so I come here at office everyday & spend at least 15-20 minutes crying in the washroom... this is the only place I can do all that pull out my emotions, I looked myself in mirror & trust me it really looks very funny when a guy cries...
Daile
Nov 8, 2013, 10:03 AM
You did all those nice things for her but also for you because it made you feel good. So stop thinking about this, it's done and you did it because you felt it was the right way to act.
Just surround yourself with people who love you and try to change your mind. Each day you will start to feel better. It will take a while but you'll recover, meet someone else and be happy again!
Take care.