Okay so I recently started dating this girl and I'm really starting to like her (I'm 17 and a Junior, she's 16 and a sophomore) but there's a couple problems, first one is where I live High schools are split up into junior and senior high, freshmen and sophomores go to junior high, and juniors and seniors go to senior high, and since I'm one year ahead of her she goes to a different school, and because of this she has different friends that she sees everyday. Which isn't that big of a deal, the only real problem is the fact that she goes to school with, and is friends with, her ex boyfriend. Now I don't care who she hangs out with and I'm not the kind of boyfriend to try and tell her who she can and can't hang out with, but her ex is still 100 percent in love with her and obsesses over her 24-7, and instead of ending the ties she has with him she continues to text him and talk to him. Which in my opinion is leading him on, but whatever. And again I wouldn't have that big of a problem with that, the problem is that he's wanted to beat my and talks about doing it all the time. I've never talked to this person before in my life but that's how it's been ever since me and this girl started dating. Now as much as I'd love to knock his teeth in every time I talk about doing it or threaten him back my girlfriend gets mad at me. But yet she stays friends with him knowing that every time I'm around him he tries to fight me. Which really really really gets to me. And I know that they hangout when I'm not there but only because of other people let me know, she's never actually told me when they do. And it scares the out of me that they have a thing together still. Plus I was at her house the other night and while I was using her phone her ex texted her, so I clicked on it out of curiosity. And the last few texts were him saying stuff like "I love you so much" and all this other bull but I didn't see anything els since she had deleted all the texts from before that. And it really worries me... I'm honestly scared to death that they have a thing or are going to hook up while we're together. But every time I try to explain this to her she just doesn't understand, and we end up fighting. Please help me, I have no idea what to do about the situation and it's killing me... I really want this relationship to work out but her ex is splitting us apart.

"My girlfriend is friends with her ex, who wants to fight me... See details" - That sounds like coming attractions.

"Now as much as I'd love to knock his teeth in every time I talk about doing it or threaten him back" - Please tell me you three don't have cars because you three are way too immature to have the responsibility that comes with driving a car.

What time is nap time at your school?

Seriously why have a relationship if you are just going to have drama, drama, and more drama. If she wants all this drama in a relationship pull up your big boy pants and lose her.

After reading your dramatic rant, I had to look back to find your age. I was thinking you are around 12.

And then you said
Which isn't that big of a deal ... I don't care who she hangs out with ... I'm not the kind of boyfriend to try and tell her who she can and can't hang out with ... but
BUT means disregard everything I said before the "but."

And you snoop in her phone?

Like Oliver said, lose her and all this drama.

Jt1996: Look it seems like she isn't really into you like you are with her. Like you said, if he still has feelings for her and she knows it and she wants to be okay with you she shouldn't talk to him like that she's leading him to say and feel that way! Actually you can never be "friends" with exs. I mean you can be "cool" but not friends and hang out and all that. It also sounds like she is into that "drama" stage of her life and probably she loves having you right behind her and having her ex. Some girls get like that, they think that is cool, when it really isn't. My best advice, from experience... Break out with her, when something starts wrong it will never be okay. She doesn't love you, because if she would she would do everything to be okay with you and wouldn't get mad because her you get mad at her ex for threaten you. Best of lucks! And don't be a dummy!

Your girl friend is the bigger problem. Lose her. This is way too much drama.

This is a really, really dumb relationship - even for high school. Break up with her and find a girl who doesn't want to be friends with her former boyfriends, and doesn't want to be friends with people who threaten her current boyfriend. If the threats are repeated, hopefully he will text or email them to you or her, and you can take a copy to your school and the police. Get an order of protection to make sure the guy has to stay away from you. Don't make any statements, particularly not in emails or texts, that you want to hurt him in any way or he could take those to the school or police.

She's having her cake and eating it too, typical teen drama. She's stringing along the ex boyfriend by remaining friends with him, texting him, allowing him to think he still has a chance, and she's playing you too. She probably loves the fact that the ex is willing to fight to get her back, what an ego boost.

Dump her, she's too much drama, and she obviously loves it otherwise she'd put an end to it.