Hi I'm 11 and today I tried 3 different web sites and I found out I was a size C bra! How do I tell myy mum?

How can you be a size "C" and you mom not know already? I mean you can't hide that.

How do you go to your mom, you simply do... say.. Mom... I need to talk to you about something... and if it makes it easier you can talk to her alone... without your father being there or any of your brothers or sisters because there is nothing you can be going through that she hasn't already been through herself at some point.

Just do it... don't be afraid to do it. She will understand.

How can you be a size "C" and you mom not know already? I mean you can't hide that.

How do you go to your mom, you simply do... say.. Mom... I need to talk to you about something... and if it makes it easier you can talk to her alone... without your father being there or any of your brothers or sisters because there is nothing you can be going through that she hasn't already been through herself at some point.

Just do it... don't be afraid to do it. She will understand.

Atually I don't think I will take your advice because at the start you were a bit y! I think you should be syportive on this site.

Atually I don't think I will take your advice because at the start you were a bit y! I think you should be syportive on this site.

I think you need to take another look at what I wrote again then.

I've been here for a lot of years... since 2005 to be exact. I know what this site is and isn't about. There was nothing wrong with what I said.

I want to know how you could manage to develop to a "C" cup without your mother knowing... that isn't exactly small or unnoticible by anyone much less a parent, that's an average size for most adult women in the USA, Canada, Australia or the UK.. And why hasn't she spoken with you about this yet? Or has she? Most mothers notice this long before you grow into an A cup.

And like I said... you tell your mother you want to talk with her about something in private... if you aren't already alone with her... and you talk to her about it if you are alone already. Its nothing to be embarrassed about.

Atually I don't think I will take your advice because at the start you were a bit y! I think you should be syportive on this site.
smoothy is a great guy and a sweetheart, so please understand he was really doing a good job answering your question.

Like he said, if you are really a C cup, the entire world including your mom has to notice that. (How did you figure that out from the Internet?)

I'm a mom but have no daughters -- but would hope my daughters would be friendly and comfortable enough with me to come to me with things like this (if I didn't ask them first). This is one of your first tests with difficult communication. If you pass this test, communicating with others about personal stuff will get easier and easier. Just think about nurses and doctors and all the personal stuff they have to ask patients about. It's not always easy for them either, but they know it's all for the good.

I think you need to take another look at what I wrote again then.

I've been here for a lot of years... since 2005 to be exact. I know what this site is and isn't about. There was nothing wrong with what I said.

I want to know how you could manage to develop to a "C" cup without your mother knowing... that isn't exactly small or unnoticible by anyone much less a parent, that's an average size for most adult women in the USA, Canada, Australia or the UK.. And why hasn't she spoken with you about this yet? Or has she? Most mothers notice this long before you grow into an A cup.

And like I said... you tell your mother you want to talk with her about something in private... if you aren't already alone with her... and you talk to her about it if you are alone already. Its nothing to be embarrassed about.
If you knew my family, mum doesn't stare at my boobs. My under bust is 27ichnes
And my bust Is 30 inches

smoothy is a great guy and a sweetheart, so please understand he was really doing a good job answering your question.

Like he said, if you are really a C cup, the entire world including your mom has to notice that. (How did you figure that out from the Internet?)

I'm a mom but have no daughters -- but would hope my daughters would be friendly and comfortable enough with me to come to me with things like this (if I didn't ask them first). This is one of your first tests with difficult communication. If you pass this test, communicating with others about personal stuff will get easier and easier. Just think about nurses and doctors and all the personal stuff they have to ask patients about. It's not always easy for them either, but they know it's all for the good.
There are size calculators

If you knew my family, mum doesn't stare at my boobs. My under bust is 27ichnes
And my bust Is 30 inches
No, she doesn't need to stare at them. If you are a C cup, they are very obvious. No staring is needed to see them.

How do those measurements make them a C cup?

I was going to link a size calculator , but strangely enough many of them are being blocked at my office (probibly the best ones too).

But here is one that includes the proper way to do it... and yes its important to measure the correct way.

4 Ways to Measure Your Bra Size - wikiHow (http://www.wikihow.com/Measure-Your-Bra-Size)


And understand its not as easy as that sounds......most women don't know how to measure correctly or know from test fitting which is actually correct for them. And as a result wear the wrong size.

You are free to ignore any advice you want. But smoothy gave you good advice. You can't tell bra size over the Internet. You can get a guesstimate of what you might need, but it will not be accurate.

And I agree with him that if you were really a C it would be very noticeable. Unless you wear VERY oversize and loose tops it would be obvious. Even if large breasts run in your family, you don't jump from flat to C cup overnight.

The answer here is simple. You go to your mum and you tell her that your body is developing and ask when she can take you to shop for bras. Then you go with her and try on several to see what fits best.

I'm positive that a difference of 3" from just under your breasts to your breasts is not a C.
Sounds like an A. That's usually where we all start.

I'm positive that a difference of 3" from just under your breasts to your breasts is not a C.
Sounds like an A. That's usually where we all start.
The cup size is not only the "height," but also the spread or roundness of the breasts. Methinks we want to grow up real fast.

Go to a store like victorias secret and get measured there. Then just straight up tell your mom. She's a woman and will understand

I'm positive that a difference of 3" from just under your breasts to your breasts is not a C.
Sounds like an A. That's usually where we all start.I'll say that as well... three inches is very little difference... and like many other things you find on the internet... that is very wrong, despite what some of these places say.

Bra Fit Guide & Calculator by Soma Intimates - Bra Fit Guide - Soma (http://www.soma.com/store/browse/shelf.jsp?cat=Bras+Bra+Fit+Guide&subCatId=cat6979292&catId=cat40089&CMP=KNC-GOOG_NB)

Here is one that says with a 27" torso measurement and around the breasts of 33" which is a 5" difference you have a A cup....roughly. She has only 3" difference.

And THAT makes a lot more sense. It (that calculator) doesn't go that low so I'm guessing she might be a AAA or even an AA, which does make a lot more sense.

And as these other ladies know.....you have to try them on to get it right because there are differences from one brand to the next. And sometimes those differences aren't that insignificant.

Go to a store like victorias secret and get measured there. Then just straight up tell your mom. She's a woman and will understand

Good advice, just in the wrong order. She's 11, she'll need to tell mom first, not only to get to the store, but to get someone that would fit her. She's a child, I'm pretty sure no one would fit her for a bra without a parent present.

Good advice, just in the wrong order. She's 11, she'll need to tell mom first, not only to get to the store, but to get someone that would fit her. She's a child, I'm pretty sure no one would fit her for a bra without a parent present.

Exactly in this day and age... most certainly. For many reasons.

Also does Victoria's Secret carry bras for teens?

Also does Victoria's Secret carry bras for teens?

The one in my area does. In fact, it's the perfect place for teens since most of their bras tend to be smaller cup sizes. But there are many other bra stores that the OP can go to. The most important thing, if she is a C cup (which I highly doubt) is to be fitted properly. It's a little less important when all you need is a training bra. Those you can fit yourself very easily.

Ok, I don't shop there very often ;) I just wondered since their line was more geared toward sexy lingerie. Not something I would want for a preteen.

Heya, I'm KelcG's mate, I think what she is trying to say is that she has got bras but they are only A's, she needs some bigger bras, her mum doesn't really talk to her about this stuff, so she's not sure how to approach her.

Heya, I'm KelcG's mate, I think what she is trying to say is that she has got bras but they are only A's, she needs some bigger bras, her mum doesn't really talk to her about this stuff, so she's not sure how to approach her.

My wife is an A cup.. and she's got more than a 3" difference in her two measurements.

If she's outgrown her current bra....she really does need to talk to her mom....panties don't just grow on trees...bras while a tad more complicated really aren't a lot different....meaning..."mom these panties are a bit too tight... I need a larger size"... and she will be talking to mom about her period and everything involved soon if she isn't already... and that would be a more sensitive subject.

Heya, I'm KelcG's mate, I think what she is trying to say is that she has got bras but they are only A's, she needs some bigger bras, her mum doesn't really talk to her about this stuff, so she's not sure how to approach her.

At last thanks ollie! ;) XX

Heya, I'm KelcG's mate, I think what she is trying to say is that she has got bras but they are only A's, she needs some bigger bras, her mum doesn't really talk to her about this stuff, so she's not sure how to approach her.
My mom didn't talk about this stuff either. (I was her first child and first daughter and had to break the ice on a lot of stuff. Eight years after I was born, my sister came along and had an easier time of it, thanks to my bravery about girl stuff.)

Soooooooooo, I had to be the grownup and ask for help and ask to go shopping. Now it's KelcG's turn to be a grownup.

My mom didn't talk about this stuff either. (I was her first child and first daughter and had to break the ice on a lot of stuff. Eight years after I was born, my sister came along and had an easier time of it, thanks to my bravery about girl stuff.)

Soooooooooo, I had to be the grownup and ask for help and ask to go shopping. Now it's KelcG's turn to be a grownup.

That's nice, you're being very supportive! :) I live with my dad so I kind of understand how it can be awkward! :/ x

Heya, I'm KelcG's mate, I think what she is trying to say is that she has got bras but they are only A's, she needs some bigger bras, her mum doesn't really talk to her about this stuff, so she's not sure how to approach her.

While she may thinks she needs them, in my experience young girls often feel they need a bigger bra when they don't. Clearly Kel is being influenced by her mistaken reading of the sizing info she has read online.

But, again, this is simple. What happened when she first got bras? Did she ask mom for them then or did mom notice? In any case, she just goes to mom and tells her that she thinks she is outgrowing the bras she has and can we go shopping for some new ones.


That's nice, you're being very supportive! :) I live with my dad so I kind of understand how it can be awkward! :/ x

We are all trying to be supportive. And yes I can understand how this would be uncomfortable to talk with a dad about. In your case, I would recommend talking to a adult female. A grand mother, Aunt, older cousin, even dad's girlfriend (if there is one.

At last thanks ollie! ;) XX

At last what?

That's nice, you're being very supportive! :) I live with my dad so I kind of understand how it can be awkward! :/ x

If you don't live with your mom.. talk with your dad... trust me... while HE might not have gone through this himself... he isn't oblivious to the most intimate needs of a female.

There is really no reason to be embarrassed, or ashamed. Any man who has been married and lived with a woman for more than a few months is as aware of all the needs a woman has, and in some cases even more than she is.

Its normal... and every young lady goes through this.

That's nice, you're being very supportive! :) I live with my dad so I kind of understand how it can be awkward! :/ x
Thank you. And like someone had said here, these are the first of many sensitive conversations you and Kel are going to have with one parent or another.

Someday, the tables are going to be turned and you will become the grownup and your parent(s) will become the child(ren). That's where i am now. My mom is 89, and my sibs and I have to ask her about personal stuff that no one wants to talk about. We had to make her stop driving because she was dangerous on the road, plus she's got memory loss and can't take care of herself very well any longer. She can't cook or remember to bathe or even remember how to comb her hair. Meanwhile, we have to respect her as our mom, even though she acts like she is our child.

I have an 11 year old daughter. In her entire class there's really only one girl that's developed enough to need a bra, and she's a AAA at most. Not to say that some girls don't develop faster than others, it does happen.

A few weeks ago my daughters best friend, who is a year older than her, gave her some of her clothes that she no longer wears. In that stack was a really cool shirt, we both loved it. Only problem was the way it's cut, if Syd lifts her arms you can see from one end to the other, and everything in between. No, she's not developed, but she is 11 and doesn't want everyone seeing everything, and neither do I.

So we looked for an undershirt. Couldn't find one in her size. We went to Dollarama, and I saw sports bras for kids. Basically they're undershirts that are shorter, but they're called a sports bra. You don't need a bust to wear them. So I bought them for her, 2 for $2, great deal, and the trim on them was the same color of the shirt. Win win.

She was thrilled. She told me that she's the only girl in her class that doesn't have a bra. So I asked her if that bothered her. She said it didn't, but that she really wants to wear this shirt and realizes she needs to have something on underneath. She also told me that she really doesn't want to wear a bra under her other shirts, because she doesn't need one.

So we had a long discussion about this. I told her about the many posts we get here on AMHD, girls her age or younger, asking us how they can ask their moms for a bra. Syd's response "they probably want one because everyone else has one, but they don't really need one. I know I can ask you when I need one, but I don't think I have to, because you'll know. But maybe it bothers these kids that they don't have a bra when everyone else in their class does, even if they don't really need one. Me, I don't really care. I know I don't need one, and I really don't want to wear one if I don't have to, but I am happy that you bought me some, even though I won't wear it all the time, only with that one shirt".

The lesson is, most moms will take their daughters shopping for a bra when they realize that their daughter needs one. So my question is, is this a matter of need, or want? I used to have the opinion that if you don't need one, you shouldn't ask for one. But there's no harm in getting a child a training bra so she doesn't feel so self conscious.

Talk to mom. If you really do need a bigger bra, she'll take you shopping. According to your friend she already bought you a training bra, so why wouldn't she buy you a bigger one if you need it?

Talk to mom. She's your mom, and she will understand. I have a feeling that it's much more scary for you than it is for her, she's been there and done that.