AnnaPrat
Oct 25, 2013, 01:05 PM
I have a huge problem...
First of all I have to tell you, I'm 20 years old and live in Spain. I'm a straight girl, who has always been just with guys and I have had three boyfriends.
I decided to go to Italy to study an italian language course. When the lessons started, I met my italian teacher and from that moment on I can't think about anything or anyone else, but her. She is the most incredible, amazing, kind, and beautiful person I have ever met.
I have three hour lessons a day with her three days a week, they are in fact, private lessons, so I really get to talk to her a lot.
Lately, we have become closer because now we have more confidence between us. In fact, once she invited me to have dinner at her house with some friends and I had an amazing time!
This weekend she again invited me to have a drink after a conference that we are both attending tomorrow at school.
Now, like I said I'm straight and I had never ever thought about being with a woman, in fact, just the idea of it was really unappealing to me. But now that I met this teacher of mine, I don't think in that way at all. I'd like to be with her, and I like the thought of going out with her and everything... in a few words, I really like her.
But it's just her, I'm not doubting about my sexuality because I don't like any other woman at all. It's really just her. Maybe it is because she is so perfect that I just have a crush on her, but I can't stop thinking about her all the time and I just want her to be happy. Is that a crush? I don't so, right?
She is also straight, but sometimes when we are together I really feel like she is a bit attracted to me. She gets a little bit nervous, she also gets pretty close to me when we are alone in class, but really really close, and she has already invited me a few times to have a drink... maybe I'm reading too much into it, but I do feel something when I'm with her.
The other problem is that she has a "friend" who lives in another city, they don't see each other very often, but this guy doesn't like labels, so he is just her "friend". For me it's pretty clear that he doesn't want to commit. I think she knows it, but I don't understand why she is still with him. Sometimes when they talk on the phone they fight and she seems really sad.
So, I don't know what to do...
Do you think that she likes me or that eventually even though she is straight, would like to be with me?
And what about her "friend", do I have to tell her something about it? Like "you don't deserve to be treated in that way because you deserve so much better..."?
And last thing...
What should I do? I want to ask her out and give her some hints to show her that I like her, but I don't want to freak her out and lose her, so what sort of things should I do or say?
First of all I have to tell you, I'm 20 years old and live in Spain. I'm a straight girl, who has always been just with guys and I have had three boyfriends.
I decided to go to Italy to study an italian language course. When the lessons started, I met my italian teacher and from that moment on I can't think about anything or anyone else, but her. She is the most incredible, amazing, kind, and beautiful person I have ever met.
I have three hour lessons a day with her three days a week, they are in fact, private lessons, so I really get to talk to her a lot.
Lately, we have become closer because now we have more confidence between us. In fact, once she invited me to have dinner at her house with some friends and I had an amazing time!
This weekend she again invited me to have a drink after a conference that we are both attending tomorrow at school.
Now, like I said I'm straight and I had never ever thought about being with a woman, in fact, just the idea of it was really unappealing to me. But now that I met this teacher of mine, I don't think in that way at all. I'd like to be with her, and I like the thought of going out with her and everything... in a few words, I really like her.
But it's just her, I'm not doubting about my sexuality because I don't like any other woman at all. It's really just her. Maybe it is because she is so perfect that I just have a crush on her, but I can't stop thinking about her all the time and I just want her to be happy. Is that a crush? I don't so, right?
She is also straight, but sometimes when we are together I really feel like she is a bit attracted to me. She gets a little bit nervous, she also gets pretty close to me when we are alone in class, but really really close, and she has already invited me a few times to have a drink... maybe I'm reading too much into it, but I do feel something when I'm with her.
The other problem is that she has a "friend" who lives in another city, they don't see each other very often, but this guy doesn't like labels, so he is just her "friend". For me it's pretty clear that he doesn't want to commit. I think she knows it, but I don't understand why she is still with him. Sometimes when they talk on the phone they fight and she seems really sad.
So, I don't know what to do...
Do you think that she likes me or that eventually even though she is straight, would like to be with me?
And what about her "friend", do I have to tell her something about it? Like "you don't deserve to be treated in that way because you deserve so much better..."?
And last thing...
What should I do? I want to ask her out and give her some hints to show her that I like her, but I don't want to freak her out and lose her, so what sort of things should I do or say?