I always put cocoa butter lotion on my penis after showering. I never had a problem with my ex wife having any problems with her. But I had sex for the first time with someone else and now she is has very itchy and burning feelings. She already saw the doctor but we are waiting on results. Is it possible that the lotion caused this ? I've only had sex with my ex wife for the last 19 yrs but she has a boyfriend and I have had sex with her since they have been together.

I have to ask, why do you put cocoa butter on your penis after showering?

In all probability the residue cocoa butter on your penis developed a bacterial infection within her vagina (your sexual encounter), therefore the itching and burning. Not good an completely uncomfortable.

Could be your ex had a stronger immune system, therefore it didn't bother her.

Your 'new encounter' will have to go to her doctor for a proper diagnosis and treatment.

It is possible that there is also some transference between your ex-wife's new boyfriend to your ex-wife to you to your new encounter. This would be a STI. You should get checked out as well to ensure your clean, and if you have encounters with your ex-wife, use a condom. When you have encounters with your new woman, use a condom. Protect everyone involved until everyone involved is verified as clean.

As tickle asked, why with the lotion, do you really get that much dry skin down there?

Other possibilities are that she has a pre-existing yeast infection or sti (sexually transmitted infection) and didn't notice until after your encounter. Some sti's can go unnoticed for a very long time. She may have an allergy to an ingredient in the the lotion or something else you used or had on your hands/body. Only a doctor can tell her what the problem is and how to fix it.

If you think you may be responsible for her irritation due to an sti, then you need to get tested. If positive, you need to inform all of your sexual partners.

I have to ask, why do you put cocoa butter on your penis after showering?

In all probability the residue cocoa butter on your penis developed a bacterial infection within her vagina (your sexual encounter), therefore the itching and burning. Not good an completely uncomfortable.

Could be your ex had a stronger immune system, therefore it didn't bother her.

Your 'new encounter' will have to go to her doctor for a proper diagnosis and treatment.

I just like how it leaves the skin feeling.

I have a cocoa butter allergy.

It affects sensitive parts of my skin the most; palms, feet, thighs, and genitals.

It's called contact dermatitis and causes itching, burning, red bumps, and flaky skin. It looks and feels like an STI when 'down there'.

Switch to Shea butter and throw out anything with cocoa butter. The more contact she has with it, the worse the reactions will get (and could start to affect hands, etc).