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bowtech08
Oct 17, 2013, 06:04 PM
My girlfriend and I have been dating for a few months now. And we both decided to be honest and open with each other now here's her story.been with a lot of guys. She has been with four times as many women as I've been I'm at 6 she's at 24.in the past she has slept around had one night stands and long-term bed buddies now I found that to be a hard pill to swallow. It gets better. She also tells me that in the past years ago she was into drugs all different kinds. That is something I am totally against. Now all of this is been a big pill to swallow.now here's the kicker she has two amazing beautiful little girls.I love her kids. There is no issue there... the Father is not in the picture and he is not around. Now she just tells me that both of her kids have different fathers... the parts that confuses me the most is that she is An amazing mother... she treats me like a king.. I mean I truly feel special when I'm with her... no body knows the truth about the kids father (s)... but me and the and the other dad that she has not talked to since she told him its his kid... the families don't even know... I don't know what kind of person I'm dealing with and I'm afraid she has the capability to really hurt me because many years ago she treated men like pieces of meat I don't know what to do

bowtech08
Oct 17, 2013, 06:06 PM
That's meant to say 4 times as many guys as I have been with woman

Fr_Chuck
Oct 18, 2013, 04:30 AM
So ? As we get older we all have baggage, what if she has only been with one guy , you would be the one with baggage. But you have yours also. if you can not agree with it, you move on, sorry, if you can not accept it for what it is.

Wondergirl
Oct 18, 2013, 09:00 AM
Your first mistake was to be "open and honest" with each other. That invariably gave the two of you grist for arguments, jealousy, and anger. I have no idea who my husband dated before me or even how many. Nor does he know that about me. When we met and were getting to know each other, we started at Square One. Our romantic histories were not discussed. Also, we don't open each other's mail, check each other's phone histories and messages, listen in on each other's phone calls, and otherwise snoop on each other.

She's an amazing mother and treats you like a king. I don't see a problem. If you have a problem with her, then end this relationship and move on to find a perfect woman. (Good luck with that!)