Ok so I apologize in advance if this is long-winded. My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months now and the first 3 months were great he gave me loads of compliments, took me out all the time, gave me rides, we'd have sex multiple times per day. We even went to Jamaica for a wedding after 4 months. Now though he acts like he's just tolerating me. I feel like I practically need to beg to hang out with him and nowadays if I ask for a ride to his place he gets super mad so I walk 20 minutes to the bus and bus for an hour to get there. When we do hang out we rarely do anything we just lay in bed watching TV not talking or touching.

Physical intimacy has basically become nothing. I have to ask for kisses/hugs and sometimes he gets really annoyed. We're down to really boring sex only once per week. He refuses to do foreplay on me because it's "too much work" then during sex he climaxes in literally 3 minutes.

Kind words are scarce. Usually he just acts like I'm such a huge hassle but I don't believe that I am. I'm a great girlfriend! I'm very attractive, supportive. I cook for him, take the bus, give him compliments, his friends and family love me. I'm really fun and I'm very intelligent with my own career and my own home. I'm pretty independent.

I know most people will say leave him but I do love him and there are things I like about him. I'm 25 and he's 28. One major issue is I've recently moved to this city and I haven't really made any friends so if we break up I'm literally completely alone. Any advice on how to improve the lack of affection/intimacy would be awesome.

Leave him. He's a frigging bum.

WHY? Why would you put up with all that you just said here? He can't be bothered to pick you up but lets you walk and ride the bus. You two do nothing together. He disrespects you. Foreplay is too much work.

Does he do anything good? Anything at all? Why settle for this? Why put yourself through being treated this way for some guy that can't even be bothered with you?

It makes absolutely no sense to me how so many women come here with a similar story and then say that they love the guy that is treating them like sh*t... I just don't get it.

And sorry but there is no advice to help you with intimacy and affection. If he can't be bothered, there is nothing you can do to change it. He is not worth your time.

I'm with odinn on this. You are the only one putting forth any effort to keep this "relationship" going. Either move back to where you used to live or start making some friends where you are now. Don't let him be the center of your world. Join a library book discussion or writing group, or find volunteer work with a hospital or school or animal shelter. Meet people and get a life beyond that guy who doesn't give a hoot about you.

***ADDED*** I wouldn't even formally break up with him. I'd just disappear out of his life. He probably won't even notice you're gone.

Wow, now that the honeymoon is over and the initial lust has faded, you are working hard to make this work, and he lets you, the lazy bum.

Stop catching the bus period, and make some friends and enjoy life without him. He may stop taking you for granted, and you may stop taking yourself for granted, and see being alone and single as a fantastic opportunity for a great time, instead of a personal fear of being alone.

You have so much to offer the right guy, or group, why settle for a lazy partner? That's how you solve your problems. Be careful who you give your heart to, and be available for.

He doesn't deserve, or appreciates you. A good guy would have the car headed in your direction without you asking.

***ADDED*** I wouldn't even formally break up with him. I'd just disappear out of his life. He probably won't even notice you're gone.

Nice. I like your style...