All right, me and my (Now ex) girlfriend have known each other for 6 years, and have recently been in a 6 month long relationship, and we broke up 2 days ago. We live about 3 hour walk away from each other, or about an hour and half bus ride, which means that we only really get to see each other once a week or so, but we've been messaging every day. When we were in a relationship we were very happy together, it seemed we were perfect for each other. We enjoy the same movies, we both play video games, have the same interests, we're very alike.

Ever since I've known her, she doesn't seem to have many friends, and now it still seems to be the same, although she's made more friends. She's been friends with a girl for about 3 years, and about a month ago she's introduced her to her new guy friends. Ever since she introduced my girlfriend to these guys, they've been going out together very often, mainly with this one guy friend. She's been going round to this one guy's flat after college like every couple of days to play games together and to hang out. She's not stopped talking about her new guy friends when we meet up. She's not a drinker nor a smoker, she said that she hates them both and are not going to do them ever because they disgust her, but since she's been friends with these new guys, she's been going to parties with them like 2 times a week and she's been getting completely drunk each time.

She invited me to one of the parties, but it turned out that they didn't go. Recently one of her guy friends asked her to go to Diwnload festival next year (A festival where you sleep in a tent for 5 days, drinking, and she'll be sleeping in a tent with all of her guy friends for the whole 5 days). Recently one of the guys (Her favorite one, it seemed) made her try smoking, I've talked to her about it and that it seemed like he were pressuring her into doing things that she doesn't want to do, and she responded with I ain't doing it again, don't say he's pressuring me because he's not like that don't blame him blame me. I hate this guy now :P A few days ago, her mother said to her "You can either stay with your boyfriend and block off your new guy friends, or you break up with your boyfriend and stay with your new friends". She came to me and I told her to choose what she wants and that I'll support her with whatever choice she makes, but she said she came up with a plan which was basically "I break up with you, I stay friends with my new friends and I'll be all depressed around my mother until she realizes that it's making her sad to choose and changes her mind with what she said so we can be back together and I can stay with my friends". I said to her that if it makes her happy and if she thinks it'll work then let's do it, I'll be here to support you along the way.

We broke up 2 days ago, and she's been really depressed ever since when we message each other. Recently she's been replying with one word answers, and if I ask if we can meet up she says "Yea sometime". I understand how she must feel about this, it's terrible for someone having to choose, but recently I've been thinking if she even loves me anymore. Bearing in mind she's only known these guys for a month and she's known me for 6 years, she's chose them. I've always been very kind to her, trying to be the best boyfriend I can be, telling her how much I love her, and I've only ever wanted her to be happy, but it seems as though ever since she's been friends with these guys (Especially the one guy) she's lost interest in me.

Sorry for rambling on, but I need to know people's opinions on this: Could this just be a lie for her to break up with me so she has a better chance with one of these guys? Bearing in mind that she left her last boyfriend "For another guy she doesn't have a chance with", whom ended up being me. This is annoying me, mainly because she chose her guy friends although she barely knew them a month. Am I just being over reactive, or is this actually strange?

Why did her mother tell her she had to chooses between you and her other friends? How old is she? That makes no sense. She sounds flaky to me. She wants to do what she is doing more than being your girl friend.
Leave her alone.

Is it strange for a young person to party, explore, and experiment? NO, its to be expected. The issue I see is the physical distance between you has eroded the bond, and influence you have on each other, and your fear has you making this a huge issue. Her mother makes her choose and of course she resists. No parent really wants this from a child, no matter the age, knowing there may be temptation and a possibility of a drunken mistake (depending on what she is smoking[?]).

The key here is you are broken up, and better leave her alone for a time to get back into the friend perspective, and out of protective concerned boyfriend mode. She is a lousy choice for romance, partly from distance, and MOSTLY for the need to explore her world without you. I think you accept her choice, like it or not, or understand it, or not.

Sorry guy as I know its tough to lose a girlfriend you were fond of, but doubly tough to lose a long term friend in this manner, but obviously she isn't listening to you or her mom and she is the only one that can control her decisions, and actions.

LET HER. Hope for the best plan for the worst, but make an adjustment to this reality, that works for you. Move beyond it for now, maybe for life. It's hard but in time the right thing for YOU, which is all that matters for YOU to survive and thrive.

Still it sucks I know.