Zephinism
Oct 6, 2013, 11:16 PM
I was dating this very sweet girl until earlier today where she told me it would not work out and we should just go back to being friends.
We were in a short term relationship before another man showed up in her life looking for a shoulder to lean on.
They were friends and I trusted her so I said do what you think is right to get him back on his feet.
When he found out I was dating her he started spreading bizarre rumors about me that my friends shrugged off as 'stupid' or 'out of character'. My girlfriend however, having known this man better than she knew me, began to doubt me. I sat through what felt like an interrogation with her and two of her close friends and said outright that I didn't feel like I deserved this level of mistrust yet I was willing to answer any questions they had truthfully.
I found out later through one of her friends that it was him who was spreading these lies about me and decided to confront both him & my girlfriend about it. I said that I didn't appreciate being lied to and slandered and told my girlfriend I would rather she doesn't associate with him and that he can go his own merry way (The exact wording was a bit more explicit than this I must confess).
On social media (Tumblr/facebook, etc.) I noticed she had many photos with him, many more than we had together but I figured since she's known him for so long they would accumulate. She had taken more photos with him than with me since we started dating.
Three days ago she refused to answer the phone, text messages or any contact I tried with her and removed my photos from her Facebook. She told me via text today that she'd rather be friends and keep me in the friendzone as I'm a nice guy. No doubt in my mind that she's with him right now.
What can I salvage from this? I've been putting out the fires from his slander to anyone who doubted me and who I wanted to keep in contact with. I'm considering cutting all contact with this girl which is a shame since I am somewhat annoyed at what could have been a great relationship.
We were in a short term relationship before another man showed up in her life looking for a shoulder to lean on.
They were friends and I trusted her so I said do what you think is right to get him back on his feet.
When he found out I was dating her he started spreading bizarre rumors about me that my friends shrugged off as 'stupid' or 'out of character'. My girlfriend however, having known this man better than she knew me, began to doubt me. I sat through what felt like an interrogation with her and two of her close friends and said outright that I didn't feel like I deserved this level of mistrust yet I was willing to answer any questions they had truthfully.
I found out later through one of her friends that it was him who was spreading these lies about me and decided to confront both him & my girlfriend about it. I said that I didn't appreciate being lied to and slandered and told my girlfriend I would rather she doesn't associate with him and that he can go his own merry way (The exact wording was a bit more explicit than this I must confess).
On social media (Tumblr/facebook, etc.) I noticed she had many photos with him, many more than we had together but I figured since she's known him for so long they would accumulate. She had taken more photos with him than with me since we started dating.
Three days ago she refused to answer the phone, text messages or any contact I tried with her and removed my photos from her Facebook. She told me via text today that she'd rather be friends and keep me in the friendzone as I'm a nice guy. No doubt in my mind that she's with him right now.
What can I salvage from this? I've been putting out the fires from his slander to anyone who doubted me and who I wanted to keep in contact with. I'm considering cutting all contact with this girl which is a shame since I am somewhat annoyed at what could have been a great relationship.