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AppealingMother
Oct 4, 2013, 04:24 AM
I met this guy a while ago and we went out on a date. I stopped answering his calls and texts after that because he intimidated me so I was really shy with him. After a few months he reached out to me randomly asking what happened and asking for another shot. He was my type so I said OK and we started again but I'm still not comfortable around him. I'm usually able to open up and be myself with a guy I like very quick but with him it's different. He has so many qualities that I'd want in a man that I'm a bit nervous. I really want to give this a good try because he thinks I could be the one for him and is really persistent. What can I do to get past this awkward phase and get to the honeymoon? What topics can I bring up to get to know him better? Help!!

joypulv
Oct 4, 2013, 04:54 AM
Is this the same man you asked about 2 weeks ago?

I am completely amazed both in that question and now this one by your lack of communication with him, regardless of whether there are 2 men or 1. And how can you be both 'intimidated' by a man yet wanting to leap to the honeymoon?

I have a little feeling that you two have never had a real TALK about anything personal - childhoods, families, wishes and hopes and expectations, plans for the future, what you like about each other...

Homegirl 50
Oct 4, 2013, 07:25 AM
If you are normally relaxed with other people but can't get comfortable with him, I'd say perhaps you should listen to your gut.
Just because he has many qualities you think are good, it does not mean he is a good person or a good one for you. Personally I don't like intimidating and persistent men. When I say no, or give me space, that is what I mean. When I walk away, that means I'm not interested. Don't keep bugging me.
Listen to your gut!