I was just thinking and many of us guys as well as girls out there have this feeling that when their significant other breaks up with them that what they were told is gold.

For example, your girlfriend tells you she has never loved someone like you before but she needs to be free and have fun or she feels smothered or doesn't want to be in a relationship right now. Basically what I am getting at is whatever you are told don't believe much of it. If the person truly respected you they wouldn't tell you the truth. The reason why is they don't want to hurt you because honestly do you want to hear I am dumping you because I am bored with you or I want to see how other men please me or you are bad in bed or you are annoying and smother me and I can never have fun. You may feel what you had was special and I am sure it was at some point but somewhere down the line it turned for the worst and couldn't recover.

I am just trying to remove the false hope that many of us have out there. This is what goes on when someone dumps because you don't understand that whatever they are telling you even if they could care less about you is something nice and sincere and gives the impression that you should hold hope. They want to let you down easily. Think about when you want to end it with someone do you tell them why you are doing this or do you make it different to make it easier on them.

This person thinks someone else out there is better and you know what that may be true but more along the lines of they think someone else out there is better FOR THEM. That does not mean that you aren't better and that they won't realize they made a mistake but don't sit around and don't let their words hold too much on your actions. Live life and enjoy it while you still can.

I think we all have the tendency of giving our significant other way too much credit. Because honestly, I don't think they're as manipulative as I'm told they are. Even in the worst case scenario, if the relationship wasn't a fake and lasted a significant amount of time, they're still in an emotional smoke cloud, and all they can do is take an educated guess as to what it is they're feeling, and even then it still gets lost in translation for the most part.

Another thing I think people don't give enough credit when breaking up is the adolescent instinct every human being still has deep inside. Think about it. When you were a kid and mommy did something that upset you, what did you say with mommy asked what was wrong? You told her nothing, and to go away, despite the fact that deep down inside, you really wanted her to make it right or whatever. On top of that, when mommy actually walked away, that then triggers your panic instinct to start talking sense when you're scared she actually doesn't care. That's where all this no contact crap comes from.