I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. I'm 23 and he's 31 and has a 10 year old by someone else. I have been having awkward emotions lately ever since we moved. We have been living together for 3 months. I used to work and he worked long hours. In the past we used to have problems because of his child's mother. He spends all his time over her brother;s because he's still close, and of course she will be. Her family will be there and I used to go with him, but its always awkward and I get disrespected every time. I expressed my emotions about it but he says that I need to respect HIS family(?). It turns to an argument, and has been going on for years because I see as him still holding on to the past after 3 years.

His real family loves me, but of course his kid;s family doesn't after being nice to them. So we have just moved in together after living with his mother for a year, horrible I know. I was working a few weeks ago and just got laid off and my boyfriend works long hours. One day he told me he's going to a party, no problem. But then he told me it's by his so called brother which it's not. It's his exes brother. He told me he didn't want me to come and he wanted to go along so there won't be confrontation. His ex is always there and he's said that not why he's going. He told me he needs his space and I'm with him too much. We barely see each other because he works long hours and I was gone 6am until 9pm and sometimes after 11.

He then said sometimes he wants to be alone or actually maybe single but not. I was shocked and furious and said I was leaving. He said he don't want me to leave and we should try see if it can still work. Fast forward a month later. He has been ignoring me and I feel that he just don't love me anymore or care. He's on Facebook more chatting with old female friends. His male friend always ask if he still with me which raise the question why does he keep asking him that. He gets really short tempered and distant. On one of his Facebook messages he tells a friend that him and his daughter are going on a trip to see them next year, which gives me the impression that maybe I'm not including in his future plans.

Every weekend he goes out and doesn't come back till then next afternoon or evening not morning. This weekend he has his daughter and they had left yesterday morning to bring her to her grandparents. He didn't even try to call and say he won't be coming home tonight. I'm starting to realize he just don't care and I'm all cried out to care anymore. I usually cry and throw fits but for some reason he's gone right now and I feel like I don't care. I used to hate him for it but I just don't care anymore. I just don't know what to do, I want to leave but I don't have friends or family to stay with. I feel like I have to go right now at this second his daughter and him made it clear that I should leave. I never felt alone and defenseless like this and I just need advice on what to do.

I know I need to go but how? Where? If I have no one else?

You DO need to move out. How is it that you have no friends or family that you can stay with, even briefly? Are you getting unemployment?
You have made a few mistakes, and one was moving in together, despite having this problem for years. Another is not really fully understanding that his daughter is first in his life, as it should be. I can tell you don't understand because you call your bf's family the child's 'real family' and his ex's family his 'kid family.' Anyone who gets involved with someone who has a child they are close it needs to be very, very cautious about getting involved in the first place.
And last, you didn't maintain a network of people to be there for you in the event a relationship failed - and surely you know that they usually do.
Go to a shelter if you really and truly have nowhere to go.

As for the law about having to leave or not, that is another matter. Are your names on a lease together, and if so, what state?

You DO need to move out. How is it that you have no friends or family that you can stay with, even briefly? Are you getting unemployment?
You have made a few mistakes, and one was moving in together, despite having this problem for years. Another is not really fully understanding that his daughter is first in his life, as it should be. I can tell you don't understand because you call your bf's family the child's 'real family' and his ex's family his 'kid family.' And last, you didn't maintain a network of people to be there for you in the event a relationship failed - and surely you know that they usually do.
Go to a shelter if you really and truly have nowhere to go.

As for the law about having to leave or not, that is another matter. Are your names on a lease together, and if so, what state?

I think you misunderstood.I do understand his child is first, I never said she wasn't. I said "his" real family not hers, and I said the kid family because it is her family. I know I made the mistake in not keeping my friend around and family. It's a long story with my family in why its torn apart. My boyfriend actually told me that they are useless and only criticize us so I should not associate myself with them anymore. Like an idiot I trusted him and told them I don't want to talk to them anymore. Now I have no one

OK, I understand what you meant now, even though your choice of words is a little troubling.. as a father, his 'family' in some ways is instantly doubled. It would be nice if he could limit them, but he didn't, and the whole situation is magnified by the fact that you have distanced yourself from your family. Family are usually willing to welcome relatives back, baggage and bad vibes and all, and it sounds like they have some of their own, so why not give it a shot? Tell them you need them and are sorry you listened to this guy. Otherwise you are out on the street, no money and no job, unless you feel like refusing to leave, sitting home in misery, and waiting to see what he does in some landlord-tenant sense.

I guess it won't hurt to try its just hard because Im 23 and my family is judgmental, they blame him for everything and think it was never going to work because we don't have the same priority and I should focus on myself. I guess they were right, I probably still will take living on the streets than confronting them and telling them they were right. So I have a job coming up and I just plan on leaving and leaving my past behind.

OK but now I'm confused. "It won't hurt to try" (to talk to your family), but you aren't going to? Because it will mean admitting that they were right? They may have been wrong about some things about him, but that's not a good reason to be so alone and lonely, and who's to say someone might not die or you might run into an even more serious disaster.

You have a job coming up but I'll bet you have no money. Make a list:
Tell your boyfriend you are leaving Oct 31, or sooner if you find a place.
Save every penny and start packing.
Tell your family, regardless of what you have to listen to.
Look for roommate ads around town, in the paper, on craigslist (beware of scams there) to live much more cheaply than on your own.

Treasure the people in your life who last. Past the lovers.