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tmb1986
Sep 17, 2013, 01:20 PM
Me and this girl have being dating for a couple months and we both agreed I should move in with her because I was there all the time any way and there was no sense in paying for two different places to live.

The first 3 weeks went great but then I noticed she was depressed and always in a bad mood. At first I though it was stress over starting a new job but then one Saturday she told me she loved me and wanted to stay with me but didn't want me to live with her right now. She said she needed space and to go see a counselor because she was depressed and didn't know why.

I still go there 4 days a week but do not live there. I stay here and there right now because I don't want to get my own place and sign a lease and be stuck there if she changes her mind soon. Anyone ever been through this or might know what is wrong with her because she says she don't know either.

N0help4u
Sep 17, 2013, 01:35 PM
There could be a lot of reasons for her depression. She needs to work through it. You can't fix her or expect her to just get over it. Be patient and don't over step your bounds, be there for her but not more than she can handle.

talaniman
Sep 17, 2013, 06:56 PM
Dude whatever her issues are she has to deal with them but get your own place because she may not change her mind and to just move back in AGAIN because she does, would be a big mistake. Point is you don't know for sure neither does she so why waste time in limbo when you can get your own stability. Your own safety net.

Yes you moved too fast, at least before you learned exactly who you were dealing with, and no doubt have a lot more to learn. Makes sense to have your own place and not depend on her, or anyone else for a place to stay while you learn more.

Bunking around waiting for her gets old doesn't it? I mean that moving in with her only lasted 3 weeks before it got old to her. Cover your own a$$ my friend.