We've been together for 7 months now, and I really love him. But I don't know why I always feel like when he says "I love you" it's fake. I mean I can tell he doesn't mean it.

First we used to go out, we used to always have dinners out and stuff , but I feel like now that he got me he just wants to make out, that's all he cares about. Every time we want to do something together the first thing he says let's go to my place, (cause there we always end up making out) but I go like naaaw, I don't feel like going home. Then he takes me to McDonald's to have a cup of coffee that's all we do! And that's annoying me ! Maybe it's because of the routine? It's getting boring?

I don't know but I really don't want to lose the sparks cause I really really love him and losing the spark is tearing me apart ! I mean even when he's saying sweet things I feel like he's always faking things. I know he loves me and he knows I love him too, but I really don't know what's going on :(

Sounds to me like he is just using you for sex. He can't even be bothered to take you anywhere other than McDonalds for coffee... what about a guy like this could you possibly love?

Seven months isn't really a long enough time to get to know someone thouroughly enough to be sure you are in love. Although, I hear it sometimes happens as love at first sight.

What you are learning about him now is what he is like without all the initial euphoria of a new relationship where are you do is think about each other and want to spend every moment of every day together. Where you had a life before, it was nothing like the thrill of a new relationship to blurr the lines, and make everything look beautiful and promising. You could probably have leaped over a tall building in a single bound!

But, reality eventually sinks in, and now it's time to evaluate what you are left with. Do you communicate well? Laugh a lot? Enjoy movies, parks, bike riding, camping? What are his views on politics? What plans does he have for the future? Is he hard working, honest, reliable, sincere?

If you are already seeing that what you are left with is the sex as an activity, which is the main activity of the day, and a man who doesn't sound sincere when he says he loves you, then, well, you're probably right about him.

Relationships build together with trust, mutual respect, mutual interests, encouragement, fidelity, honesty. On my list is 'communication' in top spot.

If you love him, and he says he loves you, then communication shouldn't be a problem. It should be as natural as the freckles on your nose. Talk to him. Tell him how you are feeling about doubting 'love' with him, and that you feel sex is the only thing on his mind most of the time.

If you can't talk to him, he will never know, and who knows- he could be feeling the same way.

Sounds to me like he is just using you for sex. He can't even be bothered to take you anywhere other than McDonalds for coffee....what about a guy like this could you possibly love?
Well I never had sex with him it's just kissing...
Umm he always texts me things like I miss you and I want to see you and I love you...
But really I don't know why the sparks are just fading!
Ok for example today : today was his birthday and I bought him a concert ticket , I couldn't see him all day till night time , the first thing he said once I stepped into the car so baby what do you want to do ? I want to do something just me and you... Hmmm so I said right away I don't feel like going home as usual so he said OK you want to go to mcdaunalds and I said whatever you want ! I feel like I'm supposed to say OK ! And I can't say anything else cz he's the one that's going to pay (that's how it is in our country te guy must pay the bill) and I can't figure out whether he has money or not and
I'm afraid I will say take me to let's say A restaurant and he doesn't have money he will feel uncomfortable so I feel like I'm putting too much effort to make this work ! And it's not working !


Seven months isn't really a long enough time to get to know someone thouroughly enough to be sure you are in love. Although, I hear it sometimes happens as love at first sight.

What you are learning about him now is what he is like without all the initial euphoria of a new relationship where are you do is think about each other and want to spend every moment of every day together. Where you had a life before, it was nothing like the thrill of a new relationship to blurr the lines, and make everything look beautiful and promising. You could probably have leaped over a tall building in a single bound!

But, reality eventually sinks in, and now it's time to evaluate what you are left with. Do you communicate well? Laugh a lot? Enjoy movies, parks, bike riding, camping? What are his views on politics? What plans does he have for the future? Is he hard working, honest, reliable, sincere?

If you are already seeing that what you are left with is the sex as an activity, which is the main activity of the day, and a man who doesn't sound sincere when he says he loves you, then, well, you're probably right about him.

Relationships build together with trust, mutual respect, mutual interests, encouragement, fidelity, honesty. On my list is 'communication' in top spot.

If you love him, and he says he loves you, then communication shouldn't be a problem. It should be as natural as the freckles on your nose. Talk to him. Tell him how you are feeling about doubting 'love' with him, and that you feel sex is the only thing on his mind most of the time.

If you can't talk to him, he will never know, and who knows- he could be feeling the exact same way.
I'm afraid I don't know how to tell him that ! I'm afraid it will hurt his feelings :/

How old are the two of you?
You cannot have a relationship with someone you are afraid to talk to.
He wants to make out, and you would like to go out, that is a problem that needs to be talked about. Could be this is not the guy for you. How old is he?

You could clear the air and erase a lot of doubts with some honest communications and you should try it and ee what happens.

No honest communications = no relationship. So you better start with being honest and talking about it.

How old are the two of you?
You cannot have a relationship with someone you are afraid to talk to.
He wants to make out, and you would like to go out, that is a problem that needs to be talked about. Could be this is not the guy for you. How old is he?
I'm 16 he's 19
I'm not afraid as in scared
I just don't want him to get hurt

You don't want him to get hurt but you're the one unhappy. Does that make sense? He seems to have no problem telling you he wants to go to his place and make out. The relationship is not just about him.

I think your age difference clears this up for me. I'm thinking he is wanting to get in your pants.
You're young and you want to go out and have fun. He wants to make out. You two are not on the same page. If you're going to date, you should date someone closer to your age.
Do your parents know you are dating a 19 year old?