bananapanda
Aug 27, 2013, 10:01 AM
My girlfriend who has ovarian cancer broke up with me. I love her. What should I do?
I'm an enjoyable person, lots of laughs but never had really interest in dating. Then along she comes... pretty and incredibly smart.
We met in nursing school and have been dating for about 6 months and we've given each other so much in the time span. When we decided to become a couple, I had already known she was diagnosed with cancer because I was there for her appointment with the doctor. I guess you could call it our first date since she asked me to come for support. When I entered my relationship with her, I understood that she had this cancer but despite the fact, I wanted to be with her. We just clicked. I loved everything about her, both the good and the bad.
Throughout our relationship, she always tried to break it off with me. She believed I deserved better, doesn't want me to suffer, there are so many unknowns and uncertainty about our future (ovarian cancer prognosis is very lethal). Also she possibly would have to have a complete hysterectomy (removal of many female reproductive organs) so she wouldn't be able to bear children.
It didn't matter to me... we could always adopt. I just wanted to grow old together.. Enjoy each other's company for the rest of our lives.
Anyhow, recently the cancer has taken it's toll on her. She undergoing treatment but much of it is a mystery to me as she doesn't want me worried. Many negative things have happened to her this year, and recently it's coming back to haunt her. Nightmares, uncertainty...
She broke up with me because right now she said she needs to be alone. She said it's too much to bear and she can't be with me right now because it hurts her. Despite all the good times we have together, she can't be happy until she healthy again. To many things going on in her life and she needs time alone from everyone until if/when she gets healthy. But I want to see her through this!
I love her though... I can't seem to leave her alone. I know she still loves me. She already threatened me saying that if I don't stop she'll stop talking to me altogether. Its painful knowing the person you love is suffering and you want to be there for them but they won't allow it. I know I'm coming off as needy but I need help :( What's your advice guys?
I'm an enjoyable person, lots of laughs but never had really interest in dating. Then along she comes... pretty and incredibly smart.
We met in nursing school and have been dating for about 6 months and we've given each other so much in the time span. When we decided to become a couple, I had already known she was diagnosed with cancer because I was there for her appointment with the doctor. I guess you could call it our first date since she asked me to come for support. When I entered my relationship with her, I understood that she had this cancer but despite the fact, I wanted to be with her. We just clicked. I loved everything about her, both the good and the bad.
Throughout our relationship, she always tried to break it off with me. She believed I deserved better, doesn't want me to suffer, there are so many unknowns and uncertainty about our future (ovarian cancer prognosis is very lethal). Also she possibly would have to have a complete hysterectomy (removal of many female reproductive organs) so she wouldn't be able to bear children.
It didn't matter to me... we could always adopt. I just wanted to grow old together.. Enjoy each other's company for the rest of our lives.
Anyhow, recently the cancer has taken it's toll on her. She undergoing treatment but much of it is a mystery to me as she doesn't want me worried. Many negative things have happened to her this year, and recently it's coming back to haunt her. Nightmares, uncertainty...
She broke up with me because right now she said she needs to be alone. She said it's too much to bear and she can't be with me right now because it hurts her. Despite all the good times we have together, she can't be happy until she healthy again. To many things going on in her life and she needs time alone from everyone until if/when she gets healthy. But I want to see her through this!
I love her though... I can't seem to leave her alone. I know she still loves me. She already threatened me saying that if I don't stop she'll stop talking to me altogether. Its painful knowing the person you love is suffering and you want to be there for them but they won't allow it. I know I'm coming off as needy but I need help :( What's your advice guys?