My husband went to jail yesturday for driving under revoked licence and while on probation, I feel so lonely without him. I look at all his stuff like clothes shoes etc, and just makes me cry. I get phone calls from him but they are so expensive! We been together almost 2 years and its just real hard since we are always together we work together, we do everything together, we do not have very many friends so I don't have no one to talk to talk to. I feel anxious, I don't know what to do please help!!

His bond is 10 g and he sees the judge tomorrow, I have faith god will help us and the judge will lower his bond. Please need someone that is going through the same to help me get through it please!

Why should God do anything ? God already did a lot, he allowed him to be on probation.

Your husband made a choice, and you do not seem to be sorry he decided to break the law. He knew this and made a choice, He is now paying that price. Remember when you ask for God, that God will forgive but expects punishment. Read the bible, there is punishment for doing wrong. Now he has to pay that price.

It is up to the judge, if he is sorry and wants to repent, God will forgive him, but God will expect punishment for the "sin" (crime)

I don't know why he was on probation, or why his license was revoked and can understand the being alone suddenly. Maybe life is showing you that wrapping your whole life around a person isolates you when something happens to that person, but you can reach out to the few friends you have or hopefully family, to help get through the next few days.

You at least have to keep it together long enough to find out what the judges says. And then make adjustment to what he says.

Why should

Your husband made a choice, and you do not seem to be sorry he decided to break the law. He knew this and made a choice, He is now paying that price. Remember when you ask for God, that God will forgive but expects punishment. Read the bible, there is punishment for doing wrong. Now he has to pay that price.

It is up to the judge, if he is sorry and wants to repent, God will forgive him, but God will expect punishment for the "sin" (crime)

Yes I know he broke the law but it was for me for his family he was working really hard to pay our rent etc, he was taken the fist time for not having a licence and was not on probation yet, he was in the process of getting sentence but I totally understand your opinion Thank you, I just feel hopeless and do not know what to do my heart is broken I need to pick up myself and get a job to keep our apt, pay for his lawyer and everything else, I just do not know how to do it, we really do not have any friends and family is not really to worried about it because they know he will get out sooner or later but I do not know how to cope with it please help me.

While you are overwhelmed is understandable but have you thought to ask what family you have to help you get through? A church charity? County, or state assistance?

I hesitate to ask what happened to the job you had when you met, but am curious. I this more about money, or the fact you are alone? Lets clarify that.

While you are overwhelmed is understandable but have you thought to ask what family you have to help you get thru? A church charity? County, or state assistance?

I hesitate to ask what happened to the job you had when you met, but am curious. I this more about money, or the fact you are alone? Lets clarify that.

I was working with him he was doing handyman jobs all the way from carpentry, flooring, drywall and it was just him and I doing it all, Of course I was doing the contracts easy job, as his assistant you could say and, but it was going great he was happy we were happy, we started going attending to church and I had never seen him happier he had finally found something hr enjoy doing and the best part was that we were together! And suddenly the world fell on us, family is trying to be supportive but you can tell they don't really care, they are probably thinking is best to forget about him and move on, but I owe it to him and most important I love him, I will be loyal to him and be with him for better or worst, I just feel spook sad I feel like part of me is missing and can help not to cry, I need to find a job make.some money and show him I can do it so he does not feel any worse than he already does. It hard I have no one to talk to and sometimes I feel like I need to tell someone how I feel!
Thank you for reading or listening to me!

I realize its not easy to be caught off guard, but stay cool and make some adjustment so you can get through this standing on your own.

I know you are feeling overwhelmed, but this is something you need to figure out now, not later after customers start calling. Does he have any outstanding/unfinished jobs? Especially ones that have been paid for but not completed. If so, is there someone who can finish the work if he is not available? Is there someone who can drive for him if he is out and can't drive? You do not need to add unhappy customers to the pile of legal issues.

Talk to the pastor/preacher/minister/priest where you started attending church. Ask for advice on getting temporary help. Ask if he/she knows of anyone hiring who might be willing to give you a chance.

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Very excellent suggestions.

I agree with Cat completely. You have to make your own way now, like it or not.

It is sad that the position you are in, is because of what he has done. Realize it is was his decision to do what he did, and he has to pay whatever the consequence is.

See if you can't make arrangements as Cat said, with customers, and/or find someone who can finish up anything not completed. Speak to his lawyer about some sort of payment plan, and start applying for jobs.

It might be a good time to consider being stronger on your own, and self-supporting, because as you have learned, things in life can change in an instant.

I believe it is never a mistake to have faith in god, yes he made a mistake and he is "paying the price" but god did not put him on probation or in jail. We all make mistakes and we all sin everyday so we should not throw stones. You are understandably upset and its great to have faith in god when things are though.

Keep praying. Write letters its cheaper than phone calls. Visit as often as possible. Send him some pictures if its allowed (Im sure he is missing you too). Keep yourself busy look for a new job, make some new friends and he will be home before you know it.

Thank you so so so much all of you who have giving me advice it is hard but I will make it, what does not kill you makes you stronger right! I'm going to have someone help me finish the jobs I think I can do it o have help my husband so.much that I think I did learn how to do his job, maybe not as fast as he did but I will make him proud of me, just need support and you all of you have giving me strength to make it work on my own until he comes home!

Is there no option of having a bondsman bond him out or does the probation prohibit that somehow?
Just curious.

Yes he has a 10 g bond, I have the 10% they ask for but I do not have nothing to back up the rest, I think they ask for a house or somekind of property + the 10%.
:( hopefully when he sees the judge next week he will lower it, to at least 5. :(