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miracle20
Aug 23, 2013, 11:01 AM
I have been dating my boyfriend for 5 month
We shared 3 mnth during our university time and an entire month 24 7 together before he traveled to work outside the country.
I left few of my friends because he hated even I stopped visiting my relatives with my parents because he thinks they go out too much and stay out late sometimes and he will be concerned if I'm out late even with them since I have late duty times also. I figured out he was hard to be with from the few 1st weeks
He hates weddings and too much friends, he'd rather stay home most of the times
After he left he said that its only OK I go out with my family for 2 3 times a month other than that we both have different duty times so the time left should be together for skype and watching movies together at same time
I spent the month home fighting for an outing that I didn't at the end to avoid problems.
He doesn't like me to wear v shirts from the beginning and after he left he said that any tight short shorts or dresses are nt nice should nt wear either. I stopped wearing any even while relaxing at home. He though my parents are reckless about me sometimes he even tried to interfere in private issues as helping them financially and stuff
My biggest problem is that 3 days ago was my birthday he took the day off to spend it like any other day on skype then movie but 2 of my girl best friend came from a far place 1 hr driving to surprise me and take me out a bit in the afternoon to eat outside they didn't want to stay home even I tried to convince the put even my mom stood against me because I have been a month home other than work we had a big fight he said he wished he didn't take his day off because they came he asked me to go bit wasn't happy about it so I went out without telling him and he found out I lied that was my mistake
Nw he doesn't want me to see those 2 anymore even he knew they were my 2 st friends but he hates on f them and had a fight with that day because he claimed I lied to him because of her
I've been trying to make things work those 3 days but I'm nt sure anymore I want it to worke but I'm the one that did the mistake
After our fight he changed his mind about me going out he said I can but to visit a friend or bring any of the girls over but as a girl with a boyfriend its nt respecting of me to go out coffeeshops or movies or to the beach without him since we used to do it together and its not nice of me to be able to enjoy it without him
I really don't know if I'm wrong to think about going out but we are managing a lifetime if we will stay together ill move to work with him after almost 2years so am I wrong asking to have a life meanwhile
Plus what about my 2 bst friends
I'm lost don't know what to do I was suppose to be visiting him in a month but I don't know if its useless to continue with this relation
Appreciate your help

N0help4u
Aug 23, 2013, 11:09 AM
Reasonable- asking for together time over other things you could be doing. Unreasonable- expecting you to stay home when he isn't even there. Some people like to be loners but they should nit dictate your social life.

Wondergirl
Aug 23, 2013, 11:12 AM
its not nice of me to be able to enjoy it without him
This sentence screamed at me. Now, tell me why it did.

N0help4u
Aug 23, 2013, 11:16 AM
... Yep, while he is traveling out of the country doing who knows what... while she sits at home twiddling her thumbs

miracle20
Aug 23, 2013, 11:31 AM
Reasonable- asking for together time over other things you could be doing. Unreasonable- expecting you to stay home when he isn't even there. Some people like to be loners but they should nit dictate your social life.

I wouldn't prefer to go out I would like to stay with him
But he says its nt fare to enjoy my time or even sleep if he is working
Plus I don't go out a lot I'm just asking for each once and a while

N0help4u
Aug 23, 2013, 11:36 AM
Yeah and there lies the problem.