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NikkiR01
Aug 17, 2013, 04:28 AM
I and my friend have known each other for almost six years. She gives me pet names, likes linking her arm with mine, and kissing on my cheek. She is straight and she knows I am openly bisexual. I am not sure what I was thinking a few weeks ago, but I asked her "if she was bisexual if she think I would make a good girlfriend." I felt a little embarrassed after sending her that text. I immediately messaged her and apologized because I didn't want things to become awkward. I told "I know were friends and you'll probably never be interested in me". She texted me back thirty minutes ago and said "okay...".

Jake2008
Aug 17, 2013, 05:52 AM
I think that any friendship that has lasted for years, will be tested from time to time.

That you were friends, and you were thinking it may become more, isn't an unusual situation, bi, or straight.

Feelings change between friends.

If it was a matter that you were simply being honest, and asking an honest question (although it would have been better in person, not text), isn't a fault. Asking a question is the only way you will get an answer. Knowing the answer is best for you and her, good or bad.

You likely surprised her, and caught her off balance. I think it's safe to say she is not interested in you, other than a friend. Fair enough.

If she dumps you as a friend, you will then know that the friendship was not strong enough to weather a bump in the road. That you have your answer, gives you choices, and you don't have to keep wondering if she might be interested or not.

I wouldn't mention it again, and let some time pass and see what happens. Call her up and see if she'd like to hang out, or hit the mall, or see a movie. If you get definite 'no's', and she makes no effort to contact you, then consider that the friendship is over.

I hope you don't see yourself as wrong in this. Many relationships that start as friendships, end up much more than that. But without having never tried, you would have never known.

N0help4u
Aug 17, 2013, 06:02 AM
You say should I just go back to being friends. What are your other options? What is your relationship now if it isn't friends?

Homegirl 50
Aug 17, 2013, 07:24 AM
You're still friends your relationship did not go to a dating one. Just don't bring it up again. Respect the boundaries.