We just completed our court order marriage counseling & my husband admitted to having an affair and states that he still has feelings for the woman, is my marriage over?

What are the next steps? I don't want a divorce so I'm trying to stall it as long as I can. Is this the last step? My husband still wants a divorce what can I do?

"what can I do?"

Probably nothing. If he is not willing to commit to you 100% then you have no marriage.

But why hold on to that? He's cheated on you. He admits he still has feelings for this other woman. Why would you want to settle for that when you can do better. Divorce is difficult. But you will come out of it stronger.

Is your marriage over? We can't answer that. Can you stand to live with a man who has cheated on you and still has feelings for that woman?

Are you prepared to live with a man who has no problem with deceit?

I know I could never live with a partner who has cheated. Especially if there were marriage vows exchanged. In my opinion, you both give 100% each, or you break it off.

He broke your heart, he broke your trust, and still maintains that he has feelings for the other woman. I truly hope there are no children involved.

Does not sound like counseling is over, sounds like it is just starting, that is, if you want to try and make it work.

But husband also will have to want to make it work.

So yes he cheated (can you forgive that) and he had feelings, does he also have feelings for you ? Is he willing to stop having any contact with other women ?

Sounds like time for months and months more of counseling, if not, yes it is over

My husband only went to counseling because I'm asking for half of everything and the judge and his lawyer told him that it was in his best interest to go and do what he was told. He tried to buy me out but, not giving me what I asked for. We don't have any kids togther so what can I expect from the judge now?


does not sound like counseling is over, sounds like it is just starting, that is, if you want to try and make it work.

But husband also will have to want to make it work.

So yes he cheated (can you forgive that) and he had feelings, does he also have feelings for you ? is he willing to stop having any contact with other women ?

Sounds like time for months and months more of counseling, if not, yes it is over

He works with this woman. He told the counselor that he always had an attraction for this woman & since we were having issue he went for it. The attractions had been on his part for about 15 yrs is what he told us.

You deserve better. You need to know you deserve better. If is refuses to commit then hanging on to nothing won't be healthy for you. It is okay to go talk to a therapist just for your needs.

As far as what the judge may or may not do, you need to seek legal advice from somewhere other than the web.

You deserve better. You need to know you deserve better. If is refuses to commit then hanging on to nothing won't be healthy for you. It is okay to go talk to a therapist just for your needs.

As far as what the judge may or may not do, you need to seek legal advice from somewhere other than the web.

Thanks! I know it's hard I have been married to this man for 9 years. I have talked him out of divorce once before and was hoping to do it again. I do have a lawyer. I hate that woman because we were OK until she came a long! We weren't the best but we were OK. Now he wants to be with her telling her that she is his gift. That just burns me up!!

Thanks! I know it's hard I have been married to this man for 9 years. I have talked him out of divorce once before and was hoping to do it again. I do have a lawyer. I hate that woman bc we were ok until she came a long! We weren't the best but we were ok. Now he wants to be with her telling her that she is his gift. That just burns me up!!!

Of course it does and you have every right to be angry, upset, hurt, etc. Now it is time to start thinking about you.

They may next ask for you both to go into mediation, (basicly meet to try to work out division of property, that both can agree to.
If not, then judge will divide Property according to state law.

The counseling in this case is merely part of the required court situation.

My husband & I were order to counseling and its over what are the next steps? I don't want a divorce so I'm trying to stall it as long as I can. Is this the last step? My husband still wants a divorce what can I do?
You went to counseling he admitted he cheated and still has feeling for this woman, he only went to counseling because he was told he should and he still wants a divorce. I'd say it's over. Why would you want to stay married to man like that?

Lose dead weight.

I'm going to have to move and he is going to move his girl friend into the house. I can't afford the house so I was told by my lawyer that he will keep the house. I don't want her in our house! I'm having a hard time with this. I don't want really want him I don't want her to have him or my stuff!!

What you can do its learn to live with it... because honestly you don't have a say in it. That's not meant to be harsh.. but it's the reality of things.

You got compensated in cash and other assets so in reality its his stuff.

Besides... its healthier for you to put this all behind you and move on. Stressing over everything isn't good for you.

It didn't work out and you can't focus on your future if you dwell in the past.

What you can do its learn to live with it...because honestly you don't have a say in it. Thats not meant to be harsh..but its the reality of things.

You got compensated in cash and other assets so in reality its his stuff.

Besides...its healthier for you to put this all behind you and move on. Stressing over everything isn't good for you.

It didn't work out and you can't focus on your future if you dwell in the past.

You're right I'm hurting now, and I know that our friends are going to talking & laughing with her. I gave this man so much of me. Talking about she is his gift just make me want to slap him.

You're right I'm hurting now, and I know that our friends are going to talking & laughing with her. I gave this man so much of me. Talking about she is his gift just make me want to slap him.

Very.. very few people can shut off their emotions like a light... it will take some time... focus on you right now.. focus on your future.. and you will find you think less and less about him and his girlfriend.

Eventually you are going to be laughing about what you ever saw in him in the first place.

Very..very few people can shut off their emotions like a light....it will take some time....focus on you right now..focus on your future..and you will find you think less and less about him and his girlfriend.

Eventually you are going to be laughing about what you ever saw in him in the first place.

He asked my 24 yr. old daughter to be in his 3rd marriage to the women that he's leaving me for. The nerve of this joker!

Definitely puts the daughter in the middle of this. Since I don't know the timeline... was she his actual daughter or stepdaughter?

Definately puts the daughter in the middle of this. Since i don't know the timeline...was she his actual daughter or stepdaughter?

Stepdaughter she mind daughter from another marriage.

Stepdaughter she mind daughter from another marriage.

Ok... then there really is less reason... particularly if you were married a lot less than that 24 years. And the shorter that marriage was... the less reason for it.

If they had a good relationship... its still a very awkward position for her to be in.

I'm guessing she accepted? If she declined... do your best to ignore it... for the sake of your own stress levels.

Ok...then there realy is less reason ...particularly if you were married a lot less than that 24 years. And the shorter that marriage was...the less reason for it.

If they had a good relationship....its still a very awkward position for her to be in.

I'm guessing she accepted?

She told him that she had to talk to me about it first. I can't believe that he is going to get marry so soon. They are planning a beach wedding. He told my daughter that he love this other woman and that the 3rd time is the charm.

She told him that she had to talk to me about it first. I can't believe that he is going to get marry so soon. They are planning a beach wedding. He told my daughter that he love this other woman and that the 3rd time is the charm.

Right... third time... I look at it as they couldn't get it right the second time... what difference is the 3rd, 4th, 5th or 6th going to make.


Yeah I know people like him too. The term is impulsive.

Right.....third time......I look at it as they couldn't get it right the second time......what difference is the 3rd, 4th, 5th or 6th going to make.


Yeah I know people like him too. The term is impulsive.

The woman he is leaving me for has never been marry and don't have any kids. He has a daughter from his first marriage. He was my second husband. I hate this woman because she has a lot going for her self. I hire a PI to dig some dirt up on her & nothing but good stuff came back to me. I didn't work she has her own business and work a 9 to 5. I beat myself up because I don't have anything or anybody now. She could have just about any man so why mine??

I can't help but to think that is why he's leaving me. So from here on out I have got to get myself together. My husband got bored with me.

No he lied, and cheated on you with someone else. That's not boredom its selfish. He was never yours, not completely. Say good riddance because the lie is over.

Take care of yourself.

Your threads have been merged again. I suggest you explain how you have gone from being a wronged wife to a playmate of an adulterer.

What is the real story?

Lol we are (2) different people using the same email address.

Please forgive the mix up not trying to play with anyone. I didn't know that my cousin was using my address for privacy.

Please forgive the mix up not trying to play with anyone. I didn't know that my cousin was using my address for privacy.
You do realize that's grounds for kicking both of you off the site, don't you?

How did your cousin get your private information?

Well that is one of the reasons they want everybody to have their own accounts.
I thought it might be two, but we have to go by the same name to view the history of posts since you didn't make separate own accounts.

You do realize that's grounds for kicking both of you off the site, don't you?

How did your cousin get your private information
?
When you order online u need an email address and I have it to her. And if I get kick off find. There are plenty of other site on the web. I just told you all that it was a mix up. Why would I play a marry woman then turn around and be the other woman. Lol really who is that stupid? Lmbo!!

Giving you the benefit of a doubt the second person has been deleted. End of story.

You'd be surprised

Giving you the benefit of a doubt the second person has been deleted. End of story.

Again I apologize for the mix up.

Why would I play a marry woman then turn around and be the other woman. Lol really who is that stupid? Lmbo!!!
It's been done here before (and worse). We could tell you stories about them all night long.

Seriously.. happens all the time... and they get indignant when he starts fooling around with someone else... when THEY were fooling around with him when he was married to someone else.

That would truly be Karma when that happens.

I remember a Jerry Springer show where the girl confessed she was with her boyfriend and with a married man. They both said they wanted nothing more to do with her and she couldn't figure that out. She demanded she was ''KEEPING BOTH of them''

I used to think Jerry Springer guests were a total fake... like professional wrestling... that was before finding out there really ARE a LOT of people like that just reading the forums on-line.

I always knew it was real cause I watched it all live in my 'hood. Always said Jerry would have a field day here. He could have spent 3 months and just barely covered it all.