So long story short I've known this girl for about 4 years now. I met her through my ex girlfriend and they were best friends who also happened to have dated in the past. Her and I soon realized we share a connection neither of us have experienced.

One night after drinking, (we both had recently broken up with our significant others and her and my ex who were best friends had a falling out and were not speaking) we started dancing with each other in her kitchen. It was romantic and we both felt like something special was happening. We walked outside to her porch and made out for what seemed like a lifetime. Everything around us seemed to stop. Nothing else mattered but her and I in that moment.

Flash forward, we end up sleeping with each other soon after but at this point her and my ex are best friends again. Despite loving me she freaks out and tells me she can't do this to her friend and we stop talking for over a year. We recently began speaking again and went on a road trip. Spent all day with each other and it was amazing. We felt truly happy. On the way back we were silent because we knew we would never find a connection like ours in this lifetime. We are destined to be in each other's lives.

Problem is, she now has a girlfriend again who was very jealous of our trip and knows our history. I couldn't hold back. I told her how I felt and she told me she feels so bad because she had been thinking about me to and that she doesn't have a connection like ours with anyone else. We haven't spoken since then.

Should I contact her or leave her alone? I know she has a lot to think about and the balls in her court. She is the one in a relationship after all. I just feel so heart broken and hopeless. I truly love this girl and believe she is my soul mate. I can't lose her, but I also can't just be her friend. It hurts too much.

You can't be friends and you can't lose her. Sorry but she was never yours and obviously prefers some one else so leave her alone and get it out of your system. I get the intense feeling of connection and desire, but its going no where.

Get busy and get past it. In time you will.

Leave her alone. She is in a relationship and obviously where she wants to be.

I agree with the others.

To sit around and wait, and hope, and dream that something more will come because of the way you feel is not going to happen. She does not feel the same way.

She's in love with the adventure she feels with you but you don't fit in her real World because she won't make room. Sounds like her friends are more important.