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avijitmathur24
Aug 14, 2013, 06:01 AM
We've been in a relationship for almost 3 months. But since she had to go home to Italy we spent only a few days at the start then went into long distance. The long distance was going very well. Now she's in spain travelling and I admit iv'e been a bit clingy (only cause I was out of work for a while otherwise I'm not like that) and have apoligized to her. She thinks I don't respect her space which I might have done unknowingly. I really love her and I know she loves me back but what does this statement mean that she needs to figure out what she's doing with me.

This happened 2 days ago.. yesterday I didn't call all day.. just at night but she didn't pick up so I send message on whatsapp showing her how much I know she apprecciates me. She did reply with that she missed me so much today silly! But today morning she talked a bit and when I said that I dreamt of her (sitting in the garden watching the lights) and I said I love u (we've already expressed out love 2 months back) she then said nice.. I should go now.. I need some time to figure out what I'm doing with you and everything..

(she'll be back here in september)

N0help4u
Aug 14, 2013, 07:41 AM
The more you contact her the more she is going to resent you and see you as a nuisance.

avijitmathur24
Aug 14, 2013, 08:30 AM
So for how long I shouldn't contact till she gets back to me?
Thanks

N0help4u
Aug 14, 2013, 08:41 AM
Send her one message saying can't wait until you are back. Then only reply to her contacts to you.

vanheart
Aug 20, 2013, 11:46 PM
3 months doesn't really make a relationship. I know about long distance. Been there. Stay loose, don't expect. Don't be jealous and don't cling with too much I miss yous. My guess is that you like her cause she's a free spirit. Let her have fun. You do the same. She will respect that maturity. Then start again when she returns. Face to face is always better. Plus she needs time to figure out you & everything anyway. She's being honest. What that says to me is you're pressing too hard, or she doesn't want to feel guilty for having fun and really I don't blame her. You'll see when the time comes. Don't wait by the phone, or lose sleep. Thatll kill you.

Fr_Chuck
Aug 21, 2013, 02:49 AM
Personally it sounds like it is over, and you just don't understand.

The clingy, just saying you are sorry, then message several times when she does not answer, just shows you still are.

You tell her that you will not message but just return her messages, and wait, if she does not message you again, then it was over.