I really like this boy, do I go for it??

9 is an age where you want to get to know boys but not a boyfriend.

A 9 year old is not in Middle School. I would imagine 3rd -4th grade. If so, you have no business having a boyfriend. I'm sure your parents would agree.

You're way too young, and will be for many more years.

Here's the thing, at your age, and until you're at least 16 (depends on where you live), you'll need your parents permission to date. I doubt very much that any parent would give their 9 year old permission to date.

So no, you can't just go for it, what your parents says goes until you're an adult

You become friends, just friends, you are not ready for boyfriend

You're way too young, and will be for many more years.

Here's the thing, at your age, and until you're at least 16 (depends on where you live), you'll need your parents permission to date. I doubt very much that any parent would give their 9 year old permission to date.

So no, you can't just go for it, what your parents says goes until you're an adult

First of all, "alty", kids have boyfriends when they are in second grade. Not everyone's parents is way to overprotective like yours. I think you can, even though it probably won't last very long.

First of all, "alty", kids have boyfriends when they are in second grade. Not everyones parents is way to overprotective like yours. I think you can, even though it probably wont last very long.

No one has a boyfriend or a girlfriend in second grade. They may have friends that are boys or girls, but a 7or 8 year old isn't old enough to be in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.

First of all, "alty", kids have boyfriends when they are in second grade. Not everyones parents is way to overprotective like yours. I think you can, even though it probably wont last very long.

Kids call others their boyfriend or girlfriend in second grade, but it's child's play, children trying to act like grownups.

Most parents I know would not agree to allowing their 9 year old child to date.

Bottom line, if the parents don't agree, no, you cannot date. You may think they can, but I know they can't. There's a big difference between thinking something, and knowing something. You might want to read up on it, educate yourself, before you give wrong advice to others.

When I was 9 (57 years ago), having a boyfriend or girlfriend was considered by parents to be harmless and cute. I think I was even younger than 9 when I went straight from hating boys to having a crush on one. It didn't last long and it meant nothing.
These days I have no idea what parents are contending with.
Tell us, KoolKat, what does it mean to you to have a boyfriend?

First of all, "alty", kids have boyfriends when they are in second grade. Not everyones parents is way to overprotective like yours. I think you can, even though it probably wont last very long.

It is not "overprotective" for parents to try and get their children to enjoy their childhood while they are a child. Children today try to grow up too fast and emulate adult behaviors they see in the media way before they are ready to handle them.

You are a typical example of a child who thinks she knows more than the adults who have already gone through growing up.

First I highly suggest asking your parents if they allow you. Nine is a very young age to start dating or thinking of having a boyfriend/girlfriend, but if you do decide to go for it then be very careful! Keep caution and know what is right to do and was is NOT right to do. Good luck! :)

First I highly suggest asking your parents if they allow you. Nine is a very young age to start dating or thinking of having a boyfriend/girlfriend, but if you do decide to go for it then be very careful! Keep caution and know what is right to do and was is NOT right to do. Good luck! :)

This is not a matter to "suggest". A minor NEEDS to get parental permission to date. A minor can't "decide" for themselves in this matter.

I know you mean well, but there is no room for equivocation here.

First I highly suggest asking your parents if they allow you. Nine is a very young age to start dating or thinking of having a boyfriend/girlfriend, but if you do decide to go for it then be very careful! Keep caution and know what is right to do and was is NOT right to do. Good luck! :)

The kids posting on this forum still don't seem to get it. I'll post it again, and I suggest everyone read it before posting more advice.

At the age of 9 she can not legally date without her parents permission. That means that if she decided to take your advice and "decide to go for it", without her parents permission, she'd be breaking the law.

You can't suggest that she ask her parents. Suggesting makes it an option. There is no option in this. She must have her parents permission first. There is no other choice. If she doesn't ask her parents, and if they don't say yes, she can't date. Period.

Lol 9 aren't guys supposed to be running from girls wait until 5th grade because that's when people start dating but kind of like sitting together at lunch and texting this lasts until at least 9th grade 9 is way to young take this from a 6th grader

lol 9 arent guys supposed to be running from girls wait until 5th grade because thats when people start dating but kinda like sitting together at lunch and texting this lasts until atleast 9th grade 9 is way to young take this from a 6th grader

Thank you so much for giving us the epic wisdom of a 10-11 year old. Thank goodness there are children here to answer important questions. What would we do without their wisdom? (sarcasm font engaged)

lol 9 arent guys supposed to be running from girls wait until 5th grade because thats when people start dating but kinda like sitting together at lunch and texting this lasts until atleast 9th grade 9 is way to young take this from a 6th grader
Dating isn't sitting next to each other at lunch.

I'm in 8th grade and I've never had a boyfriend and I don't plan to until it actually counts (the way my friends and I see it, dating at a young age is stupid and those of my friends who did "date" while they were younger are super ashamed of it and blame their decision on being a stupid little kid). Since I was little though, most of my friends have been guys and I still have plenty of friends who are guys. Just be friends with the guy and wait until you are older.

In 3rd-4th grade dating was walking and talking about random stuff. So you can call it dating but it's not.We didn't start legit dating until the end of 5th grade. By the way how are you 9 and in middle school?


The kids posting on this forum still don't seem to get it. I'll post it again, and I suggest everyone read it before posting more advice.

At the age of 9 she can not legally date without her parents permission. That means that if she decided to take your advice and "decide to go for it", without her parents permission, she'd be breaking the law.

You can't suggest that she ask her parents. Suggesting makes it an option. There is no option in this. She must have her parents permission first. There is no other choice. If she doesn't ask her parents, and if they don't say yes, she can't date. Period.
I had no idea it was illegal , in what states ,because I live in New Mexico and I've never heard that

Illegal would be if you are going somewhere your parents forbid you to go, or otherwise by law should not be going or doing as a minor. Dating in the sense kids under 15 use the term is not illegal unless your parents do not consent to you 'dating' at that age.
Dating at your age would be hanging out with friends in a group while sitting, walking, talking to the girl you consider your date. Or going somewhere chaperoned by parents such as skating.

I had no idea it was illegal , in what states ,because I live in New Mexico and I've never heard that

Until you are 18 you are under the control of your parents. Your parents decide where you can go and who you can be with. If your parents do not allow this, then the other person can get in trouble for parental interference.

Until you are 18 you are under the control of your parents. Your parents decide where you can go and who you can be with. If your parents do not allow this, then the other person can get in trouble for parental interference.

That makes much sense because I'm 11 and I'm not allowed to date until I'm 15, I doubt her dating is real dating. At our school the rule is no PDA, you're not married

It's true some parents let their kids date when their in 5th grade. I'm not allowed to date until I'm 15, I doubt she can date at 9, but I had a "boyfriends" in 3rd grade and my mom thought it was cute. So it may be different for you,but remember it's just a childish relationship, a girl in my grade started dating someone at the beginning of the day, they broke up at the end of the day


First of all, "alty", kids have boyfriends when they are in second grade. Not everyones parents is way to overprotective like yours. I think you can, even though it probably wont last very long.

I used to think my parents dating rule was stupid, but I don't think it's way overprotective, I used to worry at this rate I won't get married until thirty, but I'm glad that in four years I get to date