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james101
Aug 13, 2013, 04:24 AM
She keep telling me about it, and I don't know why. I've told her many times I don't want to hear it.


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joypulv
Aug 13, 2013, 04:27 AM
Why are you talking with your ex?
Why are you continuing to listen to her sex life? Hang up, walk away.
Do you know the expression 'rubbing salt in your own wounds?'

N0help4u
Aug 13, 2013, 04:39 AM
All you have to do is hit a button *click or *delete or walk away. She's rubbing it in that she moved on and left you

james101
Aug 13, 2013, 04:42 AM
Why are you talking with your ex?
Why are you continuing to listen to her sex life? Hang up, walk away.
Do you know the expression 'rubbing salt in your own wounds?'

Well we have been pretty close again like best friends.. well were afte me telling her for the last time I didn't want to here it she said she didn't want to friends any more but you before that we were close having regular goofy convos and such

joypulv
Aug 13, 2013, 07:03 AM
Sounds like she enjoyed torturing you, and when you finally put a stop to it, she ditched you as a 'friend.' I say friend in quotes because you were just a toy. Consider yourself lucky that she is gone. It hurts for a while but why keep hurting over and over in little ways? Hurt once and be done.

Fr_Chuck
Aug 13, 2013, 08:40 AM
To control you some, make you miserable.

The real issue is why are you even talking to them. Ex's are ex's for a reason. Stop talking and stop listening

Homegirl 50
Aug 13, 2013, 12:03 PM
She does it because you allow it.

james101
Aug 13, 2013, 06:03 PM
to control you some, make you miserable.

The real issue is why are you even talking to them. Ex's are ex's for a reason. stop talking and stop listening

Quit saying that... you can be friends with ex's u know...

Enigma1999
Aug 13, 2013, 06:07 PM
If she was such a great friend, like ”best friends” then she would respect your wishes.

Friends don't make friends feel uncomfortable.

N0help4u
Aug 13, 2013, 06:10 PM
You can be friends but she keeps rubbing it in...
That makes you a glutton for punishment when you keep going back for more.
Your choice

Cat1864
Aug 13, 2013, 06:27 PM
quit saying that...you can be friends with ex's u know...

Some people can be friends with their exes. At this point, you and she cannot be friends.

From the following quote, I don't think she wants to be friends. She wants play games and as long as you allowed it she wanted to keep you close. It was amusing to her. Think of a cat playing with a mouse.


well we have been pretty close again like best friends..well were afte me telling her for the last time i didnt wanna here it she said she didnt wanna friends any more but ya before that we were close having regular goofy convos and such

Time for a life lesson. You cannot go back to the way things were. You are not the same people you were before you dated. Your relationship is not and cannot be the same as it was.

Take some time to learn about yourself. Who you are now. Don't stay caught up in the past. Encourage yourself to move forward.


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talaniman
Aug 13, 2013, 06:33 PM
Poor guy, you are her friend and that's what happens with exes when you stay friend and keep talking. You are like her bet girlfriend, or she loves to get you upset. Either way leave her alone and quit trying this friend thing for a while. Friends can talk about ANYTHING, and not be upset.

james101
Aug 13, 2013, 08:47 PM
She does it because you allow it.

No I don't I've told her many times to stop

Enigma1999
Aug 13, 2013, 08:50 PM
no i dnt ive told her many times to stop

But she doesn't.

When are you going to draw the line in the sand?

Homegirl 50
Aug 14, 2013, 08:03 AM
no i dnt ive told her many times to stop
If you have had to tell her many times, she has had many opportunities.
Stop talking to her.

james101
Aug 16, 2013, 03:52 AM
My ex isn't to fond of me right now but its for no reason and I did nothing but she doesn't want much to do with me and she deleted me off Facebook and we kind of had a fight cause she was being rude to me for no reason and well the last thing I said to her(was being honest and wasn't rude about it) I told her she was being selfish and has some growing up to do... but will she possibly ever talk to me again if I message her in like a month from now? I really miss her and I know she's had problems in her past so that could be the reason or part of the reason she was being the way she was and broke up with me cause she's been hurt a lot.


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Oliver2011
Aug 16, 2013, 05:17 AM
It sounds like there is more to this story than you are telling or that you know. Is there someone else? She is moving her life forward and that doesn't include you for whatever reason. You might want to consider doing the same. If you do that the only way for you to make a clean break is no contact. We have all been through this and we all survive.

N0help4u
Aug 16, 2013, 05:23 AM
She for whatever reasons doesn't want you in her life any more. By pushing the issue trying to talk to her you will only be giving her more reason why she ditched you.

Jake2008
Aug 16, 2013, 06:47 AM
Maybe it was the icing on the cake.

More likely the relationship was heading toward ending, and one argument as you've stated, doesn't end a relationship. Nor does thinking you've done nothing wrong, which doesn't sound like you have a lot of insight.

So with you being clueless about why she would possibly break up with you, and wondering if she'll come back, seems a dead end street.

What good would waiting do.

james101
Aug 16, 2013, 02:16 PM
It sounds like there is more to this story than you are telling or that you know. Is there someone else? She is moving her life forward and that doesn't include you for whatever reason. You might want to consider doing the same. If you do that the only way for you to make a clean break is no contact. We have all been through this and we all survive.
I didn't do anything wrong though I know that for a 100% fact


Maybe it was the icing on the cake.

More likely the relationship was heading toward ending, and one argument as you've stated, doesn't end a relationship. Nor does thinking you've done nothing wrong, which doesn't sound like you have a lot of insight.

So with you being clueless about why she would possibly break up with you, and wondering if she'll come back, seems a dead end street.

What good would waiting do. I know I've done nothing wrong


She for whatever reasons doesnt want you in her life any more. By pushing the issue trying to talk to her you will only be giving her more reason why she ditched you.
No I wouldn't

Jake2008
Aug 16, 2013, 02:54 PM
If she's been hurt a lot in her past, perhaps she is not taking a chance on being hurt again, even if you've done nothing wrong.

You may see many things about her that there is to love, but she may not see anything. Pushing you away may give her an 'out' not to face her own fears.

In other words, there could be many reasons she could be carrying around the guilt of her past, or the regrets, or the pain. There is not much anyone can do when someone allows their past, to affect their future to such an extent, they cannot move forward with their lives.

Being burdened in that way limits independence, confidence, drive, ambition, etc. Learning to stay in one place, would eventually put a life in a stagnant place where nothing ever changes, because of the fear the past will repeat itself again.

And of course, it does.

I don't know what to tell you, but, should she come around and be willing to communicate with you, protect yourself from going through this again.

james101
Aug 17, 2013, 02:32 AM
Sorry about a lot of question about ex's but um these are things that are coming to my mind and it would be nice to get an answer to some of the questions I'm thinking so um I'm wondering when her and I were dating when she was upset depressed like with really stressful things I was always there for her and always did everything I could clearly showing how much I care, like the whole me holding her and calmly talking to her always telling her everything is going to be okay and allowing her to talk to me and tell me what was going on no matter what it was so I'm wondering if there is a chance that will happen and shed be that upset again and maybe miss having me be there?


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Jake2008
Aug 17, 2013, 05:57 AM
If you are implying that there is a chance the relationship might work, my answer is probably not.

For whatever reason it broke up, that was the end of it.

If she is needy, and needs support, and a shoulder to cry on, and someone to help her solve her problems, let it be somebody else.

Homegirl 50
Aug 17, 2013, 07:26 AM
Why did you break up? That is the big thing. If it's over, it's over.

james101
Aug 17, 2013, 07:43 AM
If you are implying that there is a chance the relationship might work, my answer is probably not.

For whatever reason it broke up, that was the end of it.

If she is needy, and needs support, and a shoulder to cry on, and someone to help her solve her problems, let it be somebody else.
Your no help... NEXT!!


Why did you break up? That is the big thing. If it's over, it's over.

I don't know...

Wondergirl
Aug 17, 2013, 07:55 AM
In my experience, no matter how close we had been when we were together, once we broke up, rarely did we become friends or even care about each other again. The guy and I may have had pleasant memories about each other, but never acted on it, like trying to get back together again. He moved on and I moved on.

Interestingly, a guy I had really liked and had dated for a year or so during high school ended up marrying one of our classmates and had a daughter with her, Years later when the daughter was in high school, he and his wife divorced but remained friends, especially for the daughter's sake. He is now one of the committee heads for our 50th high school class reunion and has been emailing with me, remembering the good times we had together. Neither of us is interested in the other romantically, but it took over 50 years to connect with him again! Maybe that will happen to you and this ex.

talaniman
Aug 17, 2013, 09:30 AM
Just can't wrap your head around the fact her feelings changed and it will never be the way it was. Just can't accept that can you? You must still be in deep shock and denial, or just don't know how to let go and move on.


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vanheart
Aug 20, 2013, 11:01 PM
Look up the meaning of ex. No longer. In the past. Don't be her friend. She's not yours. It isn't going to get you where I think you want to go. Unless you want to hear about her sex life all the time. There's other girls. If she's your best friend, then l, well, find a bester one.