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my nana
Aug 12, 2013, 11:15 PM
I am a grandmother who had to report my single daughter for child abuse. Since that day she took him away from me. Now heads to court. When she is found guilty what will happen to her. Research states she will walk from this.

Can grandparents ask courts for custody and or visitation? This grandparent is lost with him and the child is lost without grandparent. Is there any hope? The father of the child what's nothing to do with child and this grandparent took over his role with support and love since day one. This is not the first time for abuse and it won't be the last. The child is scared to sleep.

Where is there any hope in stopping abuse.

Fr_Chuck
Aug 13, 2013, 01:42 AM
You need an attorney and be working with children's services.

It is possible, but also it is possible that they find she did abuse child, but will put her into counseling, home visits and keep child in home.

Are you giving the child moral suport

my nana
Aug 13, 2013, 02:23 AM
My daughter has taking him away from us. The night I called the police and she received the ticket that was the last time I saw him. She already turned down the da's plea (twice in both court hearings that she has had) and is heading to a jury trial.. (next week) she stated to us that night that she did the abuse and just did not care what she did. This is not the first time she has hurt him it's the 4th time I called dhs but the first time I called the police.. my grandson is only 5.. im scared for him. And I guess I am looking for a little hope I will see him again. He needs hope that his mom will stop hurting him. I don't know what to do just I'm just waiting until I have to go to court next week.. thank you so much for reading and the help you give others..

Fr_Chuck
Aug 13, 2013, 03:05 AM
So where is the child now? If CPS has not taken the child out of the home, it is possible they will not even with conviction.

ScottGem
Aug 13, 2013, 03:17 AM
You should let DHS and the court know you are willing to care for the child. But I would agree with Chuck. If they didn't take the child out of the home immediately, I doubt if they will get a conviction.

my nana
Dec 5, 2013, 02:35 AM
My daughter is very abusive to everyone in her family, including her own son. I had to report her to police and she was found guilty for that. Its has been 10 months since I have seen him. I know how bad I hurt ever day, I know I cry every morning and night and there has not a day gone by that I don't think of him. My daughter will not let me see him because she is afraid I will call the police on her. That was what she told me. One time she did this to us and she told him I was dead. Every time I correct her on the way she talks , hits, what she says to him, she takes him away. This has been the longest that has gone by that he was not with me.. I was there the day he was born until that happened. My question is will he forget me, will he forget the love he and I shared.. this is a nightmare that won't stop. He was my reason for living. I have just filed for guardianship of him due to the abuse but it might be awhile for this to finish. I don't know what the outcome will be but I am afraid he won't remember me.. I was in this live everyday for 5 years. It will kill me if he don't know who I am if I win this guardianship. I hope I win the guardianship because my daughter is not a mom and will not ever win the mother of the year award. She is an abuser and had to be stopped but she still has child which I can't understand.she needed to be stopped and she did not she will keep that up she don't see what she is doing to him at all///


You should let DHS and the court know you are willing to care for the child. But I would agree with Chuck. If they didn't take the child out of the home immediately, I doubt if they will get a conviction.


Update she still has child and took a plea of quilt. I have filed for guardianship. She blames me for everything. She never does anything wrong and will never admit it to me. I don't know, I don't want to hurt her but she is hurting him a child.. I hate myself enough for all of us..

talaniman
Dec 5, 2013, 09:15 AM
What are the terms of her plea agreement?

Despite your heart felt emotional plea, which I deeply feel for, the fact she kept her kids, and was allowed to plead in the first place tells me there are many facts missing in this story. A bruise on the butt or any other signs of physical, mental, abuse results in an investigation and child protective services taking the child until the investigation is over, and a finding delivered to the court. If that didn't happen then likely there was no evidence to support your claim of abuse. Not to minimize your anguish over this at all, I would feel and react the same in your shoes, but there is little emotion in a court, so only facts matter to answer your question.

So what did she plead guilty too? What was she charged with? And what are the terms of her plea agreement?

stinawords
Dec 5, 2013, 12:03 PM
I would honestly suggest a lawyer. That isn't always my first line. However, when dealing with a situation like this where they didn't remove the child right away, a lawyer in your corner can be quite advantageous.