Before we get into my problem I want to explain the situation a little bit. I am a 20 year old guy that is very quiet, reserved, but very loving and caring. I would do anything for those that I care about and the thought of hurting my loved ones is unbearable. I've been hurt really badly from my past relationships and I have become cold and I don't express my feelings that much. Honestly, before my current girlfriend, I thought that I'd really never find someone that I could open up to. Anyway, onto my girlfriend, she is amazing, sweet, and beautiful. She is so loving and she is so into me that it is border line obsession. Before me, she was in a relationship with a huge douche bag for 4 years. She was being cheated on, threatened, yelled at, for 4 years and she looked the other way for some reason. Then, not to make me sound like a perfect boyfriend, she finds me and I loved her truly. I took her out on dates, listened to her problems, held her when she cried, and just over-all cared about her. She has told me that I showed her how relationships were supposed to be like and that makes me feel so amazing. Okay, now onto my current situation. This summer I got a job as a camp counselor and I was away from her, and unable to contact her a lot, for 2 months. Occasionally, I was able to Skype her, but every time we did all she did was cry and complain that I was having an amazing time and she was alone and working at home. This didn't bother me at first because I thought that it was just a phase... but it continued and it made me feel like she didn't like the fact that I was having a life-changing summer and developing myself into a better person. Eventually I started to fake reasons to not be able to talk to her because I was just tired of what she was doing. While this was going on, I met another girl that was more like me and I felt like she understood me, more than my current girlfriend could. I did not cheat on her with this new girl, but I did end up flirting with this other girl because I really liked her, and eventually she admitted that she liked me as well. She knew that I had a girlfriend, so we kept our flirting to a minimum because the other counselors started to notice and she didn't want to be "that girl". Anyway, during while I was working, I noticed that I don't feel the same towards my girlfriend anymore. Even now, a few weeks after camp ended, I feel like there is something missing in our relationship and I know that she feels that there is something as well. She says that she doesn't like the "new" me, but the "new" me is myself, with the exception that I feel amazing and good about myself. I told her that and she didn't answer and just pretended like I didn't say anything. I just don't look forward to hearing from her and instead I want to hear from this other woman. I am angry at myself and have been unable to sleep very well because I have been thinking so much about this. I feel like a jerk and a bad person, but I can't break her heart... I couldn't bring myself to do that... but I can't stay in a relationship that I am unhappy in. I have no clue what to do and I am tired of my restless night's sleep. If anyone can give me any advice it would be appreciated. Thanks for listening to my problem.

You need time space away from both girls and back in your normal routine to think it all through. Right now you are in a camp situation and going to think in that capacity. You may feel a distancing from your girlfriend, but once away from camp you may start to feel distanced to this new girl. Its never good to jump from one relationship into another. You need to take a break and figure out what you want.

It seems there wasn't much 'harmless flirting' going on, if the camp girl had helped change you into this 'new' person you claim to be.

It's not a good idea to develop a friendship with one female, while involved with another. The camp girl, as you said, understood you more than your girlfriend, and that too crosses the line. What you were doing was developing another relationship, particularly when the camp girl expressed she had feelings for you, and you expressed you had feelings for her.

That's called cheating. And the camp girl is lacking in scruples to say the least, flirting and professing she likes you, all the while knowing she's stabbing your girlfriend in the back.

You can't have it both ways. To be involved and in a relationship, and at the same time, find fault with your girlfriend, in order to justify thinking about a new relationship. (... the camp girl, as you said, understands you sooooo much better... )

Step up, be a man, and end things with your girlfriend, while you have this infatuation going on with the flirting camp girl. It is very unfair to be dishonest and pretend that things are as they were, because they aren't.

Most likely you and your girlfriend would have headed down a dead end anyway, particularly because you were maybe worn out with her being so needy, and demanding. Your girlfriend said you were the real deal, and she liked being treated so well. I don't hear you saying the same.

Give yourself time to figure out what you want. If your girlfriend isn't it, at least be honest with her, and yourself, and face the difficult and painful process of breaking up, with dignity.

At some point in the future when you are sure, single, and able to develop a new relationship with someone (who hopefully doesn't mess with other people's boyfriends), only then will you feel free emotionally to know what you want, and why.