My husband died a year ago, and I have moved into my own place. My grown daughters are trying to control me. I cannot see one without seeing the other one without someone getting jealous. Recently, I went to dinner with my youngest daughter and my oldest daughter flipped out. Hung up on me... cursed at me via text... and finally went on face book to call me horrible names. I have since decided that I do not need anyone's permission to do as I please, and I will not reward bad behavior by apologizing to her. (this is what she wants) So, we have not spoken for 4 days. Monday's is the day I spend with my grandchildren, I have been doing this for 4 years. This morning I received a text, telling me not to pick them up, that my daughter will be taking care of it. So now, she is punishing me by taking the girls away. Do I give in to her demands... or stand my ground. I was married for 35 years and am really trying to have a life on my own. By the way, she has been like this her whole life. I created a monster. I really want to enjoy the rest of my life, not be fighting or worry all the time. HELP!

You tell her in so many words that as long as she is being childish and punishing you for simply living your life you guess your hands are tied at not getting to spend time with your grand kids. You are more than happy to work things out but not on childish terms.