Hi, I'm a Ghanaian female who just transferred to another college. Ever since I started college,I have been bullied, harassed,and verbally assaulted by black and Hispanic females at school. There are these 3 black females who keep picking fights with me in my class and calling me a stupid African. Last Thursday morning, on my way to school, I ran into the females who are threatening and harming me. As I approached them, they grew silent and started whispering to each other and I heard one of them whisper, (that African girl is so stupid she's always sitting by herself and she never talks to anyone). They instantly blew out laughing at me and pointed at my clothing from my head to my toes they really harassed and hurt my feelings. But I did not take them seriously and shrugged it off.

Since then, I have tried my best to talk to the students at school to get people to like and not hate me instead. But the black and Hispanic females in my school keep spreading rumors about me, bumping into me in the hallways, and pointing at me for no reason. I don't know what I ever did to be treated this way. The black and Hispanic females keep calling me an African and disgracing me. Every day when I go to school, I pray in my head and on my way, I pray to God for guidance and protection.

But I am much older than the females who are bullying me in school. I should be focusing on my studies for my future career right now. Every day, the black and Hispanic females in my school point at me, pick fights with me, and harass me and I'm always crying because I'm sensitive. I told my parents about this issue but they did not believe me and kept screaming on me. They even ignored me. But the black and Hispanic students keep attacking me. Whenever I try to talk to the students, they ignore me and give me attitude. They behave as if they don't want to be nice with me. I don't have any friends in my school because no one ever approaches or talks to me. They always ignore and desert me. The boys in my school make fun of my clothes and say how cheap my clothes are. They also make remarks about how ugly I am and that I'm not good looking compared to the other females at school and outside. I guess no one likes me because they're just jealous of me and want to make sure I'm never happy and always feeling down.

What should I do?

Why are you "much older"? You are really 21 and in college? This sounds like middle school behavior.

In which city is this college? How do they know you are a "stupid Ghanaian?" Are you Caucasian?

Where were you before (college), and why did you transfer?

(Sorry about all the questions, but we need background on this.)

Are you going to school in the USA? There are serious laws here on racism and their behavior as adults. Since Its college if they cross the line they could be charged with hazing (if in USA). You do need to document this all and tell someone in some Type of authority.

You said that they attack you very often in your question, and they pick fights. If they're physically harming you, why hasn't this been reported?

If you are at a USA university, see the campus police. They should take a report and begin an investigation.

Also if this happens around any security cameras they may have been caught on video

I'm just shocked that a group of adults, all supposedly intelligent enough to get into college, would act like a group of adolescents.

Sounds like rich spoiled brats

My guess it is placed in the wrong forum and they are really perhaps in high school. This is not college behavior, at least in any US college I know of.

I hope the poster comes backs and updates this.

My guess it is placed in the wrong forum and they are really perhaps in high school. this is not college behavior, at least in any US college I know of.

I hope the poster comes backs and updates this.

I do agree Chuck, but, the OP stated that she's 21, she also stated that she just transferred to this college. So either the OP is lying, or she's very immature, and goes to college with a group of very immature adults as well.

She posted another about guys find her disgusting. I think she needs to ask one of the guys she feels most comfortable around and ask him for an honest critic about what it is that is making everybody think she is sooooo ----as she said they say-- ewwwww

I know some people who are just from Africa, and if this person is such and has moved to Europe or the US, some of her customs or even body hygene may not be at the same standards as those in US. Some of my Chinese friends here would e disgusting in the US, but are normal here in China.

Also other issues of use of language, and more, can send the wrong signals.

I know misunderstands are easy, when one does not know common expressions. A person may no proper english, but not slang.

An example, I have a very close friend here, they are not a "best" friend, but not a regular friend. So I used the term, special friend, while they appeared to want this, after I used the term, it appears here in China, the term special friend is same thing as friend with benefits.
Toni (my wife) was not amused at the misunderstanding

Basically what I am wondering but since we have no idea of her other than what she says they say and do I think its best for her to get an honest answer from one of the guys that tell her ewwww. We can guess on something's but there could be more going on that we never guess.

"I guess no one likes me because they're just jealous of me and want to make sure I'm never happy and always feeling down. "


What about you makes them jealous?

In which city is this college? How do they know you are a "stupid Ghanaian?" Are you Caucasian?

Where were you before (college), and why did you transfer?

(Sorry about all the questions, but we need background on this.)

My college is in bronx, New York. Before I was in another college in manhattan called borough of manhattan community college. I transferred because I finished my 2 year term in college and entered a different 2 year college to finish up my major. But I did not come there to be bullied and be harassed.

Why haven't you answered any of our other questions?

You said that they attack you very often in your question, and they pick fights. If they're physically harming you, why hasn't this been reported?

I already reported them to the school official but the girls pretended not to do anything and turned the story around on me. The girls kept frowning at giving me mean faces in the presence of the school official and they even tried to fight with me in the office. Those girls are disrespectful and they need help.

"I guess no one likes me because they're just jealous of me and want to make sure I'm never happy and always feeling down. "


What about you makes them jealous?

They are jealous of my exotic looks and respectful nature, and it shows in their actions.

She posted another about guys find her disgusting. I think she needs to ask one of the guys she feels most comfortable around and ask him for an honest critic about what it is that is making everybody think she is sooooo ----as she said they say-- ewwwww

But the other question I posted about not being approached by guys is true. They say eww to me when I don't even touch them. And if they don't like me but my female friends, classmates, and aunties let them just say it. Because I'll never be jealous of them they aren't worth it. You're asking why don't ask them because I'm not desperate.

They are jealous of my exotic looks
Please tell us more about this.

Or perhaps they are tired of a attitude that you look better than they do, or have an exotic look.

Or perhaps they are tired of a attitude that you look better than they do, or have an exotic look.

But why? Because I never have an attitude and I'm always in my normal mood. So I don't see why a group of girls would hate and want to attack me over my exotic looks.

i don't see why a group of girls would hate and want to attack me over my exotic looks.
And there it is. It sounds like you are too full of yourself in that you describe yourself that way.

“They are jealous of my exotic looks and respectful nature, and it shows in their actions. ... But the other question i posted about not being approached by guys is true. They say eww to me when i don't even touch them. And if they don't like me but my female friends, classmates, and aunties let them just say it. Because i'll never be jealous of them they aren't worth it. You're asking why don't ask them because i'm not desperate. ... Because i never have an attitude and i'm always in my normal mood. So i don't see why a group of girls would hate and want to attack me over my exotic looks.”


You have major attitude on this board. I can only imagine what you are like in person.

Everyone doesn't like everyone else. You certainly can't make everyone like you. Every attractive or more than attractive female has women who don't like her based on their jealousy or their insecurities. It happens.

I don't see men disliking you because of your exotic looks. That doesn't make sense.

"And if they don't like me but my female friends, classmates, and aunties let them just say it." Your family/aunties want to fight you and are jealous?

I think the problem is your personality, not your looks, as demonstrated on AMHD. As has been said, you're so full of yourself that you can't see that.

Exotic might have a very different connotation to you than it does to the Americans and Canadians who are here responding. I wish I knew what you meant by it.

You do seem to have an attitude that you are doing everything 'right' and that there's no reason for your exclusion by other women, and by potential dates with men. There's also something very naïve about it, because you seems genuinely puzzled. If you could bare your soul a little and ask someone close to you, someone who probably knows what's going on, for a straight and honest answer (instead of asking total strangers), I'm sure you can find out and also work on fixing it.

It' fairly obvious you may be different and have become the object of scorn by a bully clique. It happens when we are new to the setting. But judging the whole because of a few is just a bad way to evaluate the situation also. Take time to fit in and be accepted and some take longer than others.

Sorry you are a target for bullies, and I doubt you are the only target of their bad behavior, but I think if you avoid them when possible you may look around and find some fairly decent people and groups to gravitate to. Trust me its not jealousy of you that drives them, but being alones make you an easy target, and that's the way of bullies, ganging up on a weaker target. Ignore them, as it's my experience that in time you will see others who are not so obvious and are NOT bullies.

Your family cannot help you, but someone at school can, like a teacher, or counselor, and that where you go as you get acclimated to this new social setting. Get rid of this notion of jealousy though as it's not about your ego, but your coping skill and ability to adjust, and adapt. A little willingness, open mindedness, goes a long way.

I still think it would be best to ask one of the guys that rates you for an honest critic. A foreign Exchange student at the school I work at is 6 foot tall and has a voice like Julia Child's. She was very very plain and awkward looking some of the girls got together and did a really simple make over and even with her height and voice she fits right in now.

*actually she is closer to 7 foot tall

I do agree Chuck, but, the OP stated that she's 21, she also stated that she just transferred to this college. So either the OP is lying, or she's very immature, and goes to college with a group of very immature adults as well.

I'm not lying I'm telling the truth. I'm really being bullied and threatened constantly by the black and hispanic females at my school. If you were there to witness this, you wouldn't believe the girls bullying me. Yes I'm 21, and I'm trying to get a good education so I can become a doctor one day.


“They are jealous of my exotic looks and respectful nature, and it shows in their actions. ... But the other question i posted about not being approached by guys is true. They say eww to me when i don't even touch them. And if they don't like me but my female friends, classmates, and aunties let them just say it. Because i'll never be jealous of them they aren't worth it. You're asking why don't ask them because i'm not desperate. ... Because i never have an attitude and i'm always in my normal mood. So i don't see why a group of girls would hate and want to attack me over my exotic looks.”


You have major attitude on this board. I can only imagine what you are like in person.

Everyone doesn't like everyone else. You certainly can't make everyone like you. Every attractive or more than attractive female has women who don't like her based on their jealousy or their insecurities. It happens.

I don't see men disliking you because of your exotic looks. That doesn't make sense.

"And if they don't like me but my female friends, classmates, and aunties let them just say it." Your family/aunties want to fight you and are jealous?

I think the problem is your personality, not your looks, as demonstrated on AMHD. As has been said, you're so full of yourself that you can't see that.

But I'm telling the truth, the behave like they are jealous of me. Other wise why else would they constantly attack me for no reason when I'm changing in the gym locker room. And not to mention after I entered the classroom to learn, these girls kept talking about me in front of me and pointing at me for 3 months in a row.

I highly suggest you talk to a teacher you trust, school counselor, or another school member. To do nothing and suffer in silence is not a good option.

“They are jealous of my exotic looks and respectful nature, and it shows in their actions. ... But the other question i posted about not being approached by guys is true. They say eww to me when i don't even touch them. And if they don't like me but my female friends, classmates, and aunties let them just say it. Because i'll never be jealous of them they aren't worth it. You're asking why don't ask them because i'm not desperate. ... Because i never have an attitude and i'm always in my normal mood. So i don't see why a group of girls would hate and want to attack me over my exotic looks.”


You have major attitude on this board. I can only imagine what you are like in person.

Everyone doesn't like everyone else. You certainly can't make everyone like you. Every attractive or more than attractive female has women who don't like her based on their jealousy or their insecurities. It happens.

I don't see men disliking you because of your exotic looks. That doesn't make sense.

"And if they don't like me but my female friends, classmates, and aunties let them just say it." Your family/aunties want to fight you and are jealous?

I think the problem is your personality, not your looks, as demonstrated on AMHD. As has been said, you're so full of yourself that you can't see that.

I'm not full of myself and I don't have an attitude. All I'm trying to say is my looks may also be the reason why they keep starting fights with me for no apparent reason. I'm not insecure and I have good self confidence so I wouldn't worry about some other females. All I'm trying to say in my other question was that guys never approach me or ask me out but rather my female friends, classmates, and aunties. And most of the time their guys I have an interest in. You won't believe this but they actually flirt with and rough play with the guys I have a crush on in front of me and that is the reason why I stopped talking to them and I ignore them.

guys never approach me or ask me out

Then how did you get pregnant?